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Meltdown

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My 16 yr old gets very angry over the slightest thing, then he breaks his things, 3 TV's 2 phones tablet. All this year!! I start to panic when I hear the first sign of his meltdown as I know what's next, he costs me a fortune and I don't know what else I can do but just replace stuff to keep him happy!!

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  • I agree completely about events building up to exploding point and little irritations being the last straw.

    I have to make a conscious effort to find out what is bugging me, deep down, then work out a strategy for improving things. When a situation seems out of my control, then I shelve it. I forget about it because I feel helpless to change or improve it.

    Perhaps these teenagers need to realise that situations can beimproved, by negotiation. If they tell someone what is wrong, then maybe they can work out a way through. The desire for independance is strong and those on the spectrum do not like asking for help. They could try to identify an issue, and work out what they would like to change, then devise a strategy. This is a very adult approach, and they may be persuaded to try for that reason. They may also be happier about asking for help, if they have started the ball rolling.

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  • I agree completely about events building up to exploding point and little irritations being the last straw.

    I have to make a conscious effort to find out what is bugging me, deep down, then work out a strategy for improving things. When a situation seems out of my control, then I shelve it. I forget about it because I feel helpless to change or improve it.

    Perhaps these teenagers need to realise that situations can beimproved, by negotiation. If they tell someone what is wrong, then maybe they can work out a way through. The desire for independance is strong and those on the spectrum do not like asking for help. They could try to identify an issue, and work out what they would like to change, then devise a strategy. This is a very adult approach, and they may be persuaded to try for that reason. They may also be happier about asking for help, if they have started the ball rolling.

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