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Meltdown

flake

My 16 yr old gets very angry over the slightest thing, then he breaks his things, 3 TV's 2 phones tablet. All this year!! I start to panic when I hear the first sign of his meltdown as I know what's next, he costs me a fortune and I don't know what else I can do but just replace stuff to keep him happy!!

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  • Hi Flake. Yup, teenage is tough enough as it is, and taxes every parent, but of course it's tougher for you. You must get that sense of panic out of the way, show you are not afraid, and adopt a firm coping strategy, so I agree with Marjorie and I hope you can help him understand that you both need to do this, and why, and it's because you love him and want to help.

    Time for you to step in is when you first see the signs so that you can remind him to do what he needs to do, but get in as early as possible because sometimes we aren't very far down the line before hearing something like that goes from being helpful, to adding to the build up.

    Of course, this is easy to say but it will be hard to do. I hope you find a successful strategy because this clearly needs to change, and try to keep reminding yourself that whatever you do will take time and repetition to really start to help.

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  • Hi Flake. Yup, teenage is tough enough as it is, and taxes every parent, but of course it's tougher for you. You must get that sense of panic out of the way, show you are not afraid, and adopt a firm coping strategy, so I agree with Marjorie and I hope you can help him understand that you both need to do this, and why, and it's because you love him and want to help.

    Time for you to step in is when you first see the signs so that you can remind him to do what he needs to do, but get in as early as possible because sometimes we aren't very far down the line before hearing something like that goes from being helpful, to adding to the build up.

    Of course, this is easy to say but it will be hard to do. I hope you find a successful strategy because this clearly needs to change, and try to keep reminding yourself that whatever you do will take time and repetition to really start to help.

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