Want to quit but should I?

Good advice from Sparklinsister. You won't do yourself any favours by trying to struggle along attempting to fit into a work world where they are abusing you. All that will happen is that you'll become increasingly drained untill you're in meltdown territory. I don't think that you can even see how you're being abused, or if you can, then like the rest of us you feel like a powerless pawn. Not good, and is making you worse all of the time.

You'll often get flack from Homo Sapiens because they simply cannot enter our world. They just end up using their ignorance at you - hence the name-calling, the harsh treatment, etc etc. Employers have, by law, to make reasonable adjustments to your work place (it sounds like a uniform made from bearable material would be a start!) so that you can function there as a Disabled person, they may not ignore your needs. But none of this is possible untill you have your diagnosis.

Meanwhile, in the real world, that's exactly what they'll do, and they'll get away with it because you have no diagnosis to face them with. You need your GP support to do what Sparklinsister says, so start there. And please, don't put yourself through more torture just because of other people's expectations of you. The most important thing for your wellbeing is to do what you need to do to keep the overloading inputs away, even if it means giving in and applying for benefits, which by the sound of it is what you need to do right now.

Your parents are wrong. 'Sticking it out' will do you massive harm. If they cannot, or worse, will not, accept your situation (because they don't want a 'disabled' child?) you'll have to accept that they aren't going to help, they're going to add to the problem, even though they're trying to do their best.

I know you don't want to fall out with them, but they really ought to be parents when you need them, and their job is to listen to, understand, and protect you - for instance, bombarding you with meaningless epithets like  'act your age' and 'stick it out' isn't the same as telling you (and enabling you!) to 'be who you are'. My own parents failed miserably in this regard, and since getting my diagnosis I understand why, and don't 'blame' them. I do feel sad about it though, they missed a prime opportunity to appreciate and enjoy having a special child. Feel free to show this thread to them if it will help. If they want to know who I think I am to comment, tell them I'm a fully diagnosed Aspie (and parent, and grandparent) who's been in your position and I know better than them, as do most people on here.

We are here to help and support each other, so you know you're with friends who understand you. Get that diagnosis!

Good advice from Sparklinsister. You won't do yourself any favours by trying to struggle along attempting to fit into a work world where they are abusing you. All that will happen is that you'll become increasingly drained untill you're in meltdown territory. I don't think that you can even see how you're being abused, or if you can, then like the rest of us you feel like a powerless pawn. Not good, and is making you worse all of the time.

You'll often get flack from Homo Sapiens because they simply cannot enter our world. They just end up using their ignorance at you - hence the name-calling, the harsh treatment, etc etc. Employers have, by law, to make reasonable adjustments to your work place (it sounds like a uniform made from bearable material would be a start!) so that you can function there as a Disabled person, they may not ignore your needs. But none of this is possible untill you have your diagnosis.

Meanwhile, in the real world, that's exactly what they'll do, and they'll get away with it because you have no diagnosis to face them with. You need your GP support to do what Sparklinsister says, so start there. And please, don't put yourself through more torture just because of other people's expectations of you. The most important thing for your wellbeing is to do what you need to do to keep the overloading inputs away, even if it means giving in and applying for benefits, which by the sound of it is what you need to do right now.

Your parents are wrong. 'Sticking it out' will do you massive harm. If they cannot, or worse, will not, accept your situation (because they don't want a 'disabled' child?) you'll have to accept that they aren't going to help, they're going to add to the problem, even though they're trying to do their best.

I know you don't want to fall out with them, but they really ought to be parents when you need them, and their job is to listen to, understand, and protect you - for instance, bombarding you with meaningless epithets like  'act your age' and 'stick it out' isn't the same as telling you (and enabling you!) to 'be who you are'. My own parents failed miserably in this regard, and since getting my diagnosis I understand why, and don't 'blame' them. I do feel sad about it though, they missed a prime opportunity to appreciate and enjoy having a special child. Feel free to show this thread to them if it will help. If they want to know who I think I am to comment, tell them I'm a fully diagnosed Aspie (and parent, and grandparent) who's been in your position and I know better than them, as do most people on here.

We are here to help and support each other, so you know you're with friends who understand you. Get that diagnosis!