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overthinking

asparagus

Hello

I call it this because once I heard it on TV a very long time ago and it sounded as though it something I do actually do and when Apserger's was mooted to me a few year ago and was diagnosed last year with Autism. This is one of the areas where I say to someone I trust I hate autism. 

Tell me something serious, I blink but take it well. Tell me off, quite properly, for something so small I can overthink it. About a month ago I realised the change from knowing it autism to how would have handled it in the past. In the past, if that person had told me off, I would have possibly walked out on her, gone home and not shown up for a few weeks and chuntered to it for myself lasting for about six weeks. This incident I was able to go and seek help elsewhere and a gentle chat about it that moved into relatively normal conversation and went home okay about it as such.

This weekend I had a really good conversation with someone on Friday. In that conversation he pointed out so calmly, I think about comments way to much. Hmm part of my overthinking. The rest of the conversation including that went well. Friday evening was okay. By Saturday though I had remembered he had said this one bit. Of which I knew because I tell 'him' I overthink, and he will know from my contact with him it something I do. So how come I managed to overthink the overthinking.  I didn't argue back or anything at the time. I just nodded because I know I do so.

The comments I end up overthinking, I don't choose them. They can be good comments and I have to go around and around wondering what they might actaully mean. Why did he say it so kind? Or it can be a negative comment in my mind and chunter about it around and around. This person is my support so at least I can offload in my way to them and did so through the whole weekend.  Good things happened in that conversation but somehow my brain not focusing on that. I nearly recovered as such.

But does anyone else have overthinking comments? Can you actually choose what you overthink. This morning he did make a very helpful suggestion in if am going to overthink then choose to think on.... but is it as easy as that?  In the email I sent I know I had done exactly what he told me I do. Take a comment and way over think it. So why I did so when I know I do so. He wasn't correcting me or anything. 

But how do you deal with overthinking.

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  • Hello

    thank you everyone for replying and I do take great comfort in knowing it isn't just me and that it is something that happens to us. I am unable to select my overthinking. But may be it is possible in time.  I am a Christian and have support of a very understanding priest. Last Monday, after I had posted all the above. He emailed me and said God's Love is big...... cannot be overthought so if am going to overthink anything, overthink that!!!...

    Can we really select what we overthink?

    But am taking great comfort in that it isn't just me and that negatives get to us more and that yes some of you others do exactly same and go through social conversations and overthink them. I almost wish the priest could read this and hmm may be he is for all I know. But I know it something I do and have always done :-( Emailing has shortened life span of some overthinking, trust me. But it be good to be able to move on into the next moment without overthinking the previous moment. I can't write stuff down on paper. It don't work for me, I have tried various things in the past. Email is best form and he does 'catch-up' with me and learned things too beyond.

    So yes special thank you to everyone in providing comfort in that it is something we do. And at times very much hurts and at times really don't want to but it happens

    thank you everyone :-)

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  • Hello

    thank you everyone for replying and I do take great comfort in knowing it isn't just me and that it is something that happens to us. I am unable to select my overthinking. But may be it is possible in time.  I am a Christian and have support of a very understanding priest. Last Monday, after I had posted all the above. He emailed me and said God's Love is big...... cannot be overthought so if am going to overthink anything, overthink that!!!...

    Can we really select what we overthink?

    But am taking great comfort in that it isn't just me and that negatives get to us more and that yes some of you others do exactly same and go through social conversations and overthink them. I almost wish the priest could read this and hmm may be he is for all I know. But I know it something I do and have always done :-( Emailing has shortened life span of some overthinking, trust me. But it be good to be able to move on into the next moment without overthinking the previous moment. I can't write stuff down on paper. It don't work for me, I have tried various things in the past. Email is best form and he does 'catch-up' with me and learned things too beyond.

    So yes special thank you to everyone in providing comfort in that it is something we do. And at times very much hurts and at times really don't want to but it happens

    thank you everyone :-)

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