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asparagus

Hello

I call it this because once I heard it on TV a very long time ago and it sounded as though it something I do actually do and when Apserger's was mooted to me a few year ago and was diagnosed last year with Autism. This is one of the areas where I say to someone I trust I hate autism. 

Tell me something serious, I blink but take it well. Tell me off, quite properly, for something so small I can overthink it. About a month ago I realised the change from knowing it autism to how would have handled it in the past. In the past, if that person had told me off, I would have possibly walked out on her, gone home and not shown up for a few weeks and chuntered to it for myself lasting for about six weeks. This incident I was able to go and seek help elsewhere and a gentle chat about it that moved into relatively normal conversation and went home okay about it as such.

This weekend I had a really good conversation with someone on Friday. In that conversation he pointed out so calmly, I think about comments way to much. Hmm part of my overthinking. The rest of the conversation including that went well. Friday evening was okay. By Saturday though I had remembered he had said this one bit. Of which I knew because I tell 'him' I overthink, and he will know from my contact with him it something I do. So how come I managed to overthink the overthinking.  I didn't argue back or anything at the time. I just nodded because I know I do so.

The comments I end up overthinking, I don't choose them. They can be good comments and I have to go around and around wondering what they might actaully mean. Why did he say it so kind? Or it can be a negative comment in my mind and chunter about it around and around. This person is my support so at least I can offload in my way to them and did so through the whole weekend.  Good things happened in that conversation but somehow my brain not focusing on that. I nearly recovered as such.

But does anyone else have overthinking comments? Can you actually choose what you overthink. This morning he did make a very helpful suggestion in if am going to overthink then choose to think on.... but is it as easy as that?  In the email I sent I know I had done exactly what he told me I do. Take a comment and way over think it. So why I did so when I know I do so. He wasn't correcting me or anything. 

But how do you deal with overthinking.

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  • Both of the above are very practical advice and work to some extent for me.

    Over thinking is a phase I have to work through after any social contact. I used to do it in the night, which stopped me sleeping. Now, I try to think through events during the day, as soon as I get home. I grumble and complain or just think through my concerns, as though I am talking to someone I know. I put a limit on it now and after a while, I say to myself, that's enough, I'm getting obsessive about it now. I try to look for something positive in the event/conversation that has been worrying me, then push it all away, usings the ideas the other two have said. I am sleeping better, as a result and somehow things seam to get back into proportion by the next day.

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  • Both of the above are very practical advice and work to some extent for me.

    Over thinking is a phase I have to work through after any social contact. I used to do it in the night, which stopped me sleeping. Now, I try to think through events during the day, as soon as I get home. I grumble and complain or just think through my concerns, as though I am talking to someone I know. I put a limit on it now and after a while, I say to myself, that's enough, I'm getting obsessive about it now. I try to look for something positive in the event/conversation that has been worrying me, then push it all away, usings the ideas the other two have said. I am sleeping better, as a result and somehow things seam to get back into proportion by the next day.

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