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Frustrated at home...

BlueFlower

Hi All

I am at home looking after my 8yo ASD son.  It's half term.  And I feel unbelievably frustrated.  I was wondering if anyone can help????

I can't go out (he's refused, and I know better than to push it).  I can't get on with any jobs.  He's interrupting me every two-and-a-half minutes.  He camps on my knee.  He blocks the light.  He won't get himself absorbed in any activity (I've banned TV).  He wants attention.

Sometimes I think the answer is for me to get up and do something that he can get involved in.  Making a cake is the obvious answer but I don't particularly WANT to make a cake.

What I want to do is to breathe, slowly and deeply.  To have half an hour to gaze into the middle distance.  Perhaps think, my own thoughts, until the world seems more stable (that might take a while).  Perhaps journal a bit.  And then maybe, when I feel more whole, go out for a walk (slowly, taking the opportunity to think as I do so). 

Anyone got any tips????

Blue Flower

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  • Television was withdrawn totally in my teens (it went in the loft). Even what I listened to on the radio was vetted.

    I don't know what good it did, and I perceive it did me a lot of harm, not least because I had even less chance of having things in common to discuss with peers.

    I think it was mostly about my parents' ethics. I was a bit of a wanderer so out of the house a lot anyway (but then there 'weren't the risks' identified now - there were of course).

    So I'm not sure why you are ruling out television totally. And if it gives you a break to have him spending some time absorbed with TV programmes........., wouldn't that solve your current dilemma?  

    Failing TV there are these hand held solid memory video consoles that have loads of cartoon stories, short films, football etc., that seem to give children something to do.

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  • Television was withdrawn totally in my teens (it went in the loft). Even what I listened to on the radio was vetted.

    I don't know what good it did, and I perceive it did me a lot of harm, not least because I had even less chance of having things in common to discuss with peers.

    I think it was mostly about my parents' ethics. I was a bit of a wanderer so out of the house a lot anyway (but then there 'weren't the risks' identified now - there were of course).

    So I'm not sure why you are ruling out television totally. And if it gives you a break to have him spending some time absorbed with TV programmes........., wouldn't that solve your current dilemma?  

    Failing TV there are these hand held solid memory video consoles that have loads of cartoon stories, short films, football etc., that seem to give children something to do.

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