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Frustrated at home...

BlueFlower

Hi All

I am at home looking after my 8yo ASD son.  It's half term.  And I feel unbelievably frustrated.  I was wondering if anyone can help????

I can't go out (he's refused, and I know better than to push it).  I can't get on with any jobs.  He's interrupting me every two-and-a-half minutes.  He camps on my knee.  He blocks the light.  He won't get himself absorbed in any activity (I've banned TV).  He wants attention.

Sometimes I think the answer is for me to get up and do something that he can get involved in.  Making a cake is the obvious answer but I don't particularly WANT to make a cake.

What I want to do is to breathe, slowly and deeply.  To have half an hour to gaze into the middle distance.  Perhaps think, my own thoughts, until the world seems more stable (that might take a while).  Perhaps journal a bit.  And then maybe, when I feel more whole, go out for a walk (slowly, taking the opportunity to think as I do so). 

Anyone got any tips????

Blue Flower

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  • actually, its a rather common problem even amongst neurotypicals. I used to love watching things like supernanny etc, where such lack of focus and constant pester etc is very common, but also as far as what ive seen in my personal life, its not uncommon at all. However, its even more common with those with children with ADHD, cuz they simply cannot focus on anything for any lenght of time and pester constantly. It is possible you might come across some useful tips you can integrate in your daily life when looking up how they deal with adhd children, despite the different diagnosis. As ar as autism goes, or any other children like that, it generally helps to have a structured timetable when what happens and ground rules etc and its totally possible to put down a breather time for yourself.

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  • actually, its a rather common problem even amongst neurotypicals. I used to love watching things like supernanny etc, where such lack of focus and constant pester etc is very common, but also as far as what ive seen in my personal life, its not uncommon at all. However, its even more common with those with children with ADHD, cuz they simply cannot focus on anything for any lenght of time and pester constantly. It is possible you might come across some useful tips you can integrate in your daily life when looking up how they deal with adhd children, despite the different diagnosis. As ar as autism goes, or any other children like that, it generally helps to have a structured timetable when what happens and ground rules etc and its totally possible to put down a breather time for yourself.

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