• Replies 10 replies
  • Subscribers 79 subscribers
  • Views 1534 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Frustrated at home...

BlueFlower

Hi All

I am at home looking after my 8yo ASD son.  It's half term.  And I feel unbelievably frustrated.  I was wondering if anyone can help????

I can't go out (he's refused, and I know better than to push it).  I can't get on with any jobs.  He's interrupting me every two-and-a-half minutes.  He camps on my knee.  He blocks the light.  He won't get himself absorbed in any activity (I've banned TV).  He wants attention.

Sometimes I think the answer is for me to get up and do something that he can get involved in.  Making a cake is the obvious answer but I don't particularly WANT to make a cake.

What I want to do is to breathe, slowly and deeply.  To have half an hour to gaze into the middle distance.  Perhaps think, my own thoughts, until the world seems more stable (that might take a while).  Perhaps journal a bit.  And then maybe, when I feel more whole, go out for a walk (slowly, taking the opportunity to think as I do so). 

Anyone got any tips????

Blue Flower

Parents

  • You're right, Longman, I haven't said much about him.  He's lovely, BTW!  But I suppose the reason I haven't said much about his interests is that he doesn't really HAVE any focussed interest (apart from TV).  I'd love him to develop some sort of hobby that he could focus his attention on for hours.  He can't read, otherwise that would be a escape.  He loves lego, but only when he has a brand new set with instructions (otherwise he gets frustrated that the peices are missing and it's "wrong").  He's outgrown most of his childhood toys and not replaced them with something that takes his energy/effort.

    I have purchased a lot of different items over the years in the hope of interesting him in a new activity.  He isn't interested, and perhaps that's why he's camping on top of me every time I look as if I'm settling down to gaze into the middle distance.  I think it's ASD, rather than a "Mumsnet" style question, because I suspect most children have something that they enjoy doing, or even many activities....

Reply

  • You're right, Longman, I haven't said much about him.  He's lovely, BTW!  But I suppose the reason I haven't said much about his interests is that he doesn't really HAVE any focussed interest (apart from TV).  I'd love him to develop some sort of hobby that he could focus his attention on for hours.  He can't read, otherwise that would be a escape.  He loves lego, but only when he has a brand new set with instructions (otherwise he gets frustrated that the peices are missing and it's "wrong").  He's outgrown most of his childhood toys and not replaced them with something that takes his energy/effort.

    I have purchased a lot of different items over the years in the hope of interesting him in a new activity.  He isn't interested, and perhaps that's why he's camping on top of me every time I look as if I'm settling down to gaze into the middle distance.  I think it's ASD, rather than a "Mumsnet" style question, because I suspect most children have something that they enjoy doing, or even many activities....

Children
No Data