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Being a parent

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I'm undiagnosed but sure I fit somewhere around the Aspergers part of the spectrum. I am the parent of a 6 year old girl... and find parenthood damned difficult at times! I know many neurotypical parents would say the same, but I particularly find myself having difficulty with "finding my own space" around an often demanding 6 year old! My partner tells me I need to find ways of "doing my own thing" around our daughter, but we don't have a big house, I spend most of my non-work time at home... and sometimes just being around my daughter and her mother for more than short periods of time feels very claustrophobic... which then makes me feel guilty! I know I take the stress this causes out on them at times, which isn't fair on them and not good for me...

Can anyone out there relate to and advise on this?

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    It may have been triggered by an innocent question but I suspect that you were already stressed.

    If you are aware that you are pedantic then your partner's comment could be acknowledged by an "I know" rather than taking it as a criticism. Being pedantic is the way we are and it need not be taken as a criticism but if you are stressed then everything seems critical. Take a deep breath, acknowledge that this is the way things are and then move on.

    The way you quietly and firmly got your daughter to get dressed is the right way to deal with children- particularly if they are on the spectrum. They need to be dealt with calmly and fairly and the more consistent you can be then the easier it can get. Try not to rise to an argument and try and remember that you are the adult and she is just 7. This is easier said than done but just try and be a bit less critical of yourself and everything else.

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    It may have been triggered by an innocent question but I suspect that you were already stressed.

    If you are aware that you are pedantic then your partner's comment could be acknowledged by an "I know" rather than taking it as a criticism. Being pedantic is the way we are and it need not be taken as a criticism but if you are stressed then everything seems critical. Take a deep breath, acknowledge that this is the way things are and then move on.

    The way you quietly and firmly got your daughter to get dressed is the right way to deal with children- particularly if they are on the spectrum. They need to be dealt with calmly and fairly and the more consistent you can be then the easier it can get. Try not to rise to an argument and try and remember that you are the adult and she is just 7. This is easier said than done but just try and be a bit less critical of yourself and everything else.

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