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Being a parent

Dasp

I'm undiagnosed but sure I fit somewhere around the Aspergers part of the spectrum. I am the parent of a 6 year old girl... and find parenthood damned difficult at times! I know many neurotypical parents would say the same, but I particularly find myself having difficulty with "finding my own space" around an often demanding 6 year old! My partner tells me I need to find ways of "doing my own thing" around our daughter, but we don't have a big house, I spend most of my non-work time at home... and sometimes just being around my daughter and her mother for more than short periods of time feels very claustrophobic... which then makes me feel guilty! I know I take the stress this causes out on them at times, which isn't fair on them and not good for me...

Can anyone out there relate to and advise on this?

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  • Being a parent certainly requires huge reserves of patience and generosity of heart!  I guess that displaying grace is harder for autistic people, but I'm afraid we don't have a get-out clause. 

    My only suggestion, really, is that if you find that you're struggling to meet your family's needs for compassion, because you're needy yourself for time/space - then maybe consider not having children in your life...  book holiday club/nursery, or don't have as many children.....  that sounds sort of harsh though! 

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  • Being a parent certainly requires huge reserves of patience and generosity of heart!  I guess that displaying grace is harder for autistic people, but I'm afraid we don't have a get-out clause. 

    My only suggestion, really, is that if you find that you're struggling to meet your family's needs for compassion, because you're needy yourself for time/space - then maybe consider not having children in your life...  book holiday club/nursery, or don't have as many children.....  that sounds sort of harsh though! 

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