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Being a parent

Dasp

I'm undiagnosed but sure I fit somewhere around the Aspergers part of the spectrum. I am the parent of a 6 year old girl... and find parenthood damned difficult at times! I know many neurotypical parents would say the same, but I particularly find myself having difficulty with "finding my own space" around an often demanding 6 year old! My partner tells me I need to find ways of "doing my own thing" around our daughter, but we don't have a big house, I spend most of my non-work time at home... and sometimes just being around my daughter and her mother for more than short periods of time feels very claustrophobic... which then makes me feel guilty! I know I take the stress this causes out on them at times, which isn't fair on them and not good for me...

Can anyone out there relate to and advise on this?

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    Hi Dasp,

    I think your partner sounds very understanding :-) I think your stress and discomfort is entirely understandable - I don't think we make the most natural and instinctive parents - I know that I struggled with this and got stuff wrong. (my kids grew up and left home before I got diagnosed)

    I think you should try not to feel guilty - you are the way you are and you didn't choose it and you can't wish it away. Personally I have felt much more comfortable with a diagnosis than I did before. I still clatter about and make mistakes but I am much more aware and accepting of the situation. Have you thought about getting a diagnosis?

    Have you tried the free online test aspergerstest.net/.../ this is quite reliable.

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    Hi Dasp,

    I think your partner sounds very understanding :-) I think your stress and discomfort is entirely understandable - I don't think we make the most natural and instinctive parents - I know that I struggled with this and got stuff wrong. (my kids grew up and left home before I got diagnosed)

    I think you should try not to feel guilty - you are the way you are and you didn't choose it and you can't wish it away. Personally I have felt much more comfortable with a diagnosis than I did before. I still clatter about and make mistakes but I am much more aware and accepting of the situation. Have you thought about getting a diagnosis?

    Have you tried the free online test aspergerstest.net/.../ this is quite reliable.

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