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Knowing that I'm different.

ethan01

I've had a diagnosis of autism since 7 years old. but never thought much of it. But as shortly completing my final year of school, i'm starting to think to myself, why am I different?

I go to school every day, with not one friend.

I think differently than others

I got high expectation in life, but strugle to see how to achieve them.

I dont think my family really understand on what I'm feeling and what I'm trying to say, if i do something wrong, my grandmother screams at me and shouts. Just makes me not to like her even more.

Life with autism is not easy, but as I get older, I'm starting to wonder, why? why me?

I'm finding hard to talk to my parents about stuff, because, strange things worry me, and when I try to talk to them about it, they just tell me to grow up, get a life. Things like that upset me. But, I love my family to bits, but sometimes, I dont think they understand on what autism actually is.

Is anyone else that has autism knows that they are different, but just dont know how?

 

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  • Hi Ethan01,

      I'm not sure if you intend to go to College and whether you have a statement or LDA (Learning Disability Assessment) But if you do intend to go to College, You can ask if they can put you on a 'Social Use of Language Program.' that you could attend whilst you are at College. It will be part of the SEN dept. You can ask any key workers, ConneXions etc, to help you with this. You can ask them to add it to your provison package for transfer to College. What subjects do you like or hope to study at College if you go?

    A social use of language program helps you look at various senarios and learn how to take conversation beyond just yes/no answers. My son has taken it and he's now reasonable at knowing what to say in some cases, but it will take practice.

    What you mention, about your not having friends or people not understanding you, is a common theme I'm afraid. This can be ignorance on their part of others, but try not to let it get you down. It's ok to be you.

    Do you have any special interests? Something you could share with another like-minded person?

    You will probably find that those who understand you most will be others on the spectrum. In my experience they have also been the most helpful for me. This forum is friendly and the forum users answer most questions posted here.

    The friend thing, may be because you are missing social cues. These take time, you may pick some of them up, but others can be a little harder to judge.

    Like I say, try to keep positive. See if you can get the book from the library if it's too expensive from Amazon and work through it. Perhaps after your exams during the Summer break.

    Their are other youngsters your age who also link with Autism Communities on FB. Ofen with people of a similar age. Do you have a FB Page?

    Hope the above is helpful,

    Coogy

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  • Hi Ethan01,

      I'm not sure if you intend to go to College and whether you have a statement or LDA (Learning Disability Assessment) But if you do intend to go to College, You can ask if they can put you on a 'Social Use of Language Program.' that you could attend whilst you are at College. It will be part of the SEN dept. You can ask any key workers, ConneXions etc, to help you with this. You can ask them to add it to your provison package for transfer to College. What subjects do you like or hope to study at College if you go?

    A social use of language program helps you look at various senarios and learn how to take conversation beyond just yes/no answers. My son has taken it and he's now reasonable at knowing what to say in some cases, but it will take practice.

    What you mention, about your not having friends or people not understanding you, is a common theme I'm afraid. This can be ignorance on their part of others, but try not to let it get you down. It's ok to be you.

    Do you have any special interests? Something you could share with another like-minded person?

    You will probably find that those who understand you most will be others on the spectrum. In my experience they have also been the most helpful for me. This forum is friendly and the forum users answer most questions posted here.

    The friend thing, may be because you are missing social cues. These take time, you may pick some of them up, but others can be a little harder to judge.

    Like I say, try to keep positive. See if you can get the book from the library if it's too expensive from Amazon and work through it. Perhaps after your exams during the Summer break.

    Their are other youngsters your age who also link with Autism Communities on FB. Ofen with people of a similar age. Do you have a FB Page?

    Hope the above is helpful,

    Coogy

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