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Are people with ASDs more tollerant of other autisic people than NTs are?

Marjorie195

I do sometimes wonder if our personal experience of being misunderstood and misinterpreted, makes us more likely to give someone the benefit of the doubt when we are on the receiving end of communications which appear less than tactful.

Are we any good at spotting others on the spectrum?

For a while, I have been encountering a guy who to me appears unfriendly and prickly. These are critisisms which are sometimes levelled at people with asd. It has occured to me, that he may be on the spectrum, but I do not know if I am wasting my time being polite to someone who does not want to be friendly, or just has difficulty with it.

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  • I was not offended Maggs, no worries.

    Re cashpoints, it is an issue. You need to stand close enough to be seen as in the queue, but not to be so close as to be suspected of shoulder surfing. I stand close ish, but turn away from the cash machine and look into the distance. I leave a gap perhaps big enough to get a largish person in, without touching either party. We have one cashpoint which has a line to stand behind. The trouble is that on crowded pavements, it becomes confused. I often opt for the indoor cashpoint, less problems.

    The invasion of personal space, which upsets me, is when someone who is speaking to me, stands within say 6 inches of me. To me it is as though we are magnets, turned to the polarity which pushes one away from the other, rather than attracting. I am pushed backwards, before we actually get to the point of making contact. I cannot control it, it just happens. Someone once said angrily to me, "do I have bad breath or something" as I edged away. It is not a conscious act, more involluntary. I also hate being touched/hugged/kissed by anyone but close family. I find it deeply offensive and yet these are all behaviours of nt people. Why do they say it is an autistic trait to get too close to other people, for me, it is the reverse.

    This is something I rant on about from time to time. I am thinking of inventing the "stick on cold sore" , for all those occasions when other people think it is somehow pleasant hug an kiss each other. urghghSmileLaughing

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  • I was not offended Maggs, no worries.

    Re cashpoints, it is an issue. You need to stand close enough to be seen as in the queue, but not to be so close as to be suspected of shoulder surfing. I stand close ish, but turn away from the cash machine and look into the distance. I leave a gap perhaps big enough to get a largish person in, without touching either party. We have one cashpoint which has a line to stand behind. The trouble is that on crowded pavements, it becomes confused. I often opt for the indoor cashpoint, less problems.

    The invasion of personal space, which upsets me, is when someone who is speaking to me, stands within say 6 inches of me. To me it is as though we are magnets, turned to the polarity which pushes one away from the other, rather than attracting. I am pushed backwards, before we actually get to the point of making contact. I cannot control it, it just happens. Someone once said angrily to me, "do I have bad breath or something" as I edged away. It is not a conscious act, more involluntary. I also hate being touched/hugged/kissed by anyone but close family. I find it deeply offensive and yet these are all behaviours of nt people. Why do they say it is an autistic trait to get too close to other people, for me, it is the reverse.

    This is something I rant on about from time to time. I am thinking of inventing the "stick on cold sore" , for all those occasions when other people think it is somehow pleasant hug an kiss each other. urghghSmileLaughing

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