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Are people with ASDs more tollerant of other autisic people than NTs are?

Marjorie195

I do sometimes wonder if our personal experience of being misunderstood and misinterpreted, makes us more likely to give someone the benefit of the doubt when we are on the receiving end of communications which appear less than tactful.

Are we any good at spotting others on the spectrum?

For a while, I have been encountering a guy who to me appears unfriendly and prickly. These are critisisms which are sometimes levelled at people with asd. It has occured to me, that he may be on the spectrum, but I do not know if I am wasting my time being polite to someone who does not want to be friendly, or just has difficulty with it.

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  • You sound just like me. I wish people would just tell me when I get things wrong. Some people I meet, most weeks, I explained to them that I sometimes say the wrong things but don't mean to be unkind, and would they just tell me. I said this would give me the chance to apologise, or explain, but they never do. I know that I still upset people sometimes, by seeing their reaction, but they still don't tell me, so I don't know until I work it out, much later, what I did wrong, and then I don't feel able to raise the issue, in case it is just me assuming they are upset with me but really it is something else.  If I ever ask people if I have done something to upset them, they always say no and I suspect they are lying.

    It 's a crazy, difficult world we live in.

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  • You sound just like me. I wish people would just tell me when I get things wrong. Some people I meet, most weeks, I explained to them that I sometimes say the wrong things but don't mean to be unkind, and would they just tell me. I said this would give me the chance to apologise, or explain, but they never do. I know that I still upset people sometimes, by seeing their reaction, but they still don't tell me, so I don't know until I work it out, much later, what I did wrong, and then I don't feel able to raise the issue, in case it is just me assuming they are upset with me but really it is something else.  If I ever ask people if I have done something to upset them, they always say no and I suspect they are lying.

    It 's a crazy, difficult world we live in.

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