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Are people with ASDs more tollerant of other autisic people than NTs are?

Marjorie195

I do sometimes wonder if our personal experience of being misunderstood and misinterpreted, makes us more likely to give someone the benefit of the doubt when we are on the receiving end of communications which appear less than tactful.

Are we any good at spotting others on the spectrum?

For a while, I have been encountering a guy who to me appears unfriendly and prickly. These are critisisms which are sometimes levelled at people with asd. It has occured to me, that he may be on the spectrum, but I do not know if I am wasting my time being polite to someone who does not want to be friendly, or just has difficulty with it.

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  • steven said:

    I use to find that when i looked at people and was tring to work them out they would look away and had strange body language.

    After a time it seems clear that the think i'm flirting with them of intend something dishounrable which i don't. 

    Does this mean anything to anyone? i use to try and read there eyes, seemed to be more honest than what they said..

    It makes women feel threatened if a man they do not know looks at them for too long. Women are taught not to make eye contact with men they do not know, unless meeting at a social venue. Women are at risk from some men, and we do not know who is safe and who is not. It is also intimidating to walk too close behind a woman, especially at night or in quiet places. Men can over power women and it does happen and they need to be cautious.  This also applies to men we do not know well.

    The best defence we have is to show dislike to discourage further attention. This should not be taken personally, but if you want to get to know someone better, keep your looking to fleeting glances, and approach via a mutual friend, or in a place which can be seen as safe.

    I am sorry that this sounds so critical. You sound like a lovely gentle guy. I don't want you to be upset, just to realise that you may frighten people a little, because they do not know that you are a nice guy.

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  • steven said:

    I use to find that when i looked at people and was tring to work them out they would look away and had strange body language.

    After a time it seems clear that the think i'm flirting with them of intend something dishounrable which i don't. 

    Does this mean anything to anyone? i use to try and read there eyes, seemed to be more honest than what they said..

    It makes women feel threatened if a man they do not know looks at them for too long. Women are taught not to make eye contact with men they do not know, unless meeting at a social venue. Women are at risk from some men, and we do not know who is safe and who is not. It is also intimidating to walk too close behind a woman, especially at night or in quiet places. Men can over power women and it does happen and they need to be cautious.  This also applies to men we do not know well.

    The best defence we have is to show dislike to discourage further attention. This should not be taken personally, but if you want to get to know someone better, keep your looking to fleeting glances, and approach via a mutual friend, or in a place which can be seen as safe.

    I am sorry that this sounds so critical. You sound like a lovely gentle guy. I don't want you to be upset, just to realise that you may frighten people a little, because they do not know that you are a nice guy.

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