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Are people with ASDs more tollerant of other autisic people than NTs are?

Marjorie195

I do sometimes wonder if our personal experience of being misunderstood and misinterpreted, makes us more likely to give someone the benefit of the doubt when we are on the receiving end of communications which appear less than tactful.

Are we any good at spotting others on the spectrum?

For a while, I have been encountering a guy who to me appears unfriendly and prickly. These are critisisms which are sometimes levelled at people with asd. It has occured to me, that he may be on the spectrum, but I do not know if I am wasting my time being polite to someone who does not want to be friendly, or just has difficulty with it.

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  • I am drawn to all things logical. I never really worked at maths, it just came naturally. I also enjoyed sciences and physical geography, the latter became something of a passion. I seek out the physically beautiful and unspoilt parts of the planet. I love puzzles too.

    I found school work boring until 6th form. For O levels, instead of, or before revising, I worked out the statistical chances of each question being on the exam paper, from the old papers we looked at for practice purposes. I learned the five most likely topics in detail and ignored the rest. I got 6 out of 7 exactly right. I blew it on history, only being able to answer one question  and failing badly.

    Re looking at people, I used to look at people who spoke to me, not their eyes, quite intently, to show interest. I realised that some would shrivel up under my gaze and blush and feel really uncomfortable. I was staring too hard, perhaps. I have to find other places to look so that they feel more at ease. It is difficult not to look at the person I am speaking to. I wonder if these people have asd. I used to feel uncomfortable like they do at one time, but I overcame it as I got older. I never look at the faces of the oposite sex unless I have to speak to them. I believe it is thought to express attraction, and is therefore potentially hazardous.  To look at the same sex without smiling or speaking is either challenging or critical. I love to watch people, but it has to be discrete. I generally look away if they look in my direction.

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  • I am drawn to all things logical. I never really worked at maths, it just came naturally. I also enjoyed sciences and physical geography, the latter became something of a passion. I seek out the physically beautiful and unspoilt parts of the planet. I love puzzles too.

    I found school work boring until 6th form. For O levels, instead of, or before revising, I worked out the statistical chances of each question being on the exam paper, from the old papers we looked at for practice purposes. I learned the five most likely topics in detail and ignored the rest. I got 6 out of 7 exactly right. I blew it on history, only being able to answer one question  and failing badly.

    Re looking at people, I used to look at people who spoke to me, not their eyes, quite intently, to show interest. I realised that some would shrivel up under my gaze and blush and feel really uncomfortable. I was staring too hard, perhaps. I have to find other places to look so that they feel more at ease. It is difficult not to look at the person I am speaking to. I wonder if these people have asd. I used to feel uncomfortable like they do at one time, but I overcame it as I got older. I never look at the faces of the oposite sex unless I have to speak to them. I believe it is thought to express attraction, and is therefore potentially hazardous.  To look at the same sex without smiling or speaking is either challenging or critical. I love to watch people, but it has to be discrete. I generally look away if they look in my direction.

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