help please newly diagnosed and behavioural issues

Hi rach06

NAS have a section on their site devoted to behaviour and are also able to offer advice over the phone I understand.

www.autism.org.uk/challengingbehaviour

I had significant behavior problems with one of my sons and this turned out to be educationally provoked. (Is your son 14 by chance?)

This seems to be the key age when the disparity between what the child can manage and what is expected of him; as he moves up the academic ladder, gets to a critical phase. Although having said that, if he is poorly supported in School it can happen even in primary school.

You are not alone and your senario is one frequently aired here on the forum. School say he's an Angel and well behaved, Home life is a living hell.

The truth is that he's probably had to be contained all day at School and home is actually his safety release valve. It's hard not to take this personally as it feels and often is an assault, but he's probably finding it quite difficult to regulate his emotions and feels easily overwhelmed. The fact that you mention he is stressed first thing is also an indicator that he is anxious about his inpending day

It may pay you to check that the behaviour is not related to any bullying at School, In the first instance. Once you have checked that, then you need to look at startegies to calm and stress triggers that provoke an outburst. Because of the nature of the outbursts, often our gut instinct is to retaliate when such instances occur, but that in itself can escallate things dramatically.

Food triggers can also be at play. Energy dips during the day can provoke sugar cravings and energy drinks or extremely sugary or processed foods can agrevate the situation.

Look at regular excersize also. Swimming is especially good if he is not prone to sensory overload from the achostics often found in public pools. Water is soothing to most and leaves many way calmer. I've also used Moh Doh for my son as a stress reliever and lavender oil at night time to calm.

http://www.mohdoh.co.uk/

My best advice would be to take a multi-pronged approach. trial strategies and if they don't work, tweek them or move onto others.

When my son gave up education it was like someone had flicked a switch. Don't get me wrong, he still have regular outbursts, but nowhere near the magnatude of before.

From what you say; and i'm no expert, you will probably need to teach him to manage his time a little better. Down time is often as important as commited time and should be factored into his day.

Some youngsters are not equiped for the lenth of a School day, yet as a statutory requirement are forced to attend. Things will get better if you access the right support.

I do feel for you, It's a horrible experience I know.

Take care

Coogybear

Hi rach06

NAS have a section on their site devoted to behaviour and are also able to offer advice over the phone I understand.

www.autism.org.uk/challengingbehaviour

I had significant behavior problems with one of my sons and this turned out to be educationally provoked. (Is your son 14 by chance?)

This seems to be the key age when the disparity between what the child can manage and what is expected of him; as he moves up the academic ladder, gets to a critical phase. Although having said that, if he is poorly supported in School it can happen even in primary school.

You are not alone and your senario is one frequently aired here on the forum. School say he's an Angel and well behaved, Home life is a living hell.

The truth is that he's probably had to be contained all day at School and home is actually his safety release valve. It's hard not to take this personally as it feels and often is an assault, but he's probably finding it quite difficult to regulate his emotions and feels easily overwhelmed. The fact that you mention he is stressed first thing is also an indicator that he is anxious about his inpending day

It may pay you to check that the behaviour is not related to any bullying at School, In the first instance. Once you have checked that, then you need to look at startegies to calm and stress triggers that provoke an outburst. Because of the nature of the outbursts, often our gut instinct is to retaliate when such instances occur, but that in itself can escallate things dramatically.

Food triggers can also be at play. Energy dips during the day can provoke sugar cravings and energy drinks or extremely sugary or processed foods can agrevate the situation.

Look at regular excersize also. Swimming is especially good if he is not prone to sensory overload from the achostics often found in public pools. Water is soothing to most and leaves many way calmer. I've also used Moh Doh for my son as a stress reliever and lavender oil at night time to calm.

http://www.mohdoh.co.uk/

My best advice would be to take a multi-pronged approach. trial strategies and if they don't work, tweek them or move onto others.

When my son gave up education it was like someone had flicked a switch. Don't get me wrong, he still have regular outbursts, but nowhere near the magnatude of before.

From what you say; and i'm no expert, you will probably need to teach him to manage his time a little better. Down time is often as important as commited time and should be factored into his day.

Some youngsters are not equiped for the lenth of a School day, yet as a statutory requirement are forced to attend. Things will get better if you access the right support.

I do feel for you, It's a horrible experience I know.

Take care

Coogybear