ASD traits and do you identify with my own?

I was recently diagnosed as having Asperger Syndrome by two psychiatrists, after a suggestion from a psychotherapist that I might have Asperger. 

 

(The reason for my diagnosis was in relation to depression, home sickness, anxiety, inability to cope with changes in my life and work, etc.  Based on what I told a psychologist over a period of several weeks, she suggested that I might have Asperger.  This was supported by a more formal diagnosis by two psychiatrists.) 

 

Just like two non-aspies are not necessarily the same, I think that two aspies are not necessarily the same, either (although we do have similar traits). 

 

I am curious as to what traits other Autistic / Aspie NAS members have and whether any fellow Autistic / Aspie NAS members share some of my own traits? 

 

Here are some of my common traits:

  • Difficulty with handwriting (poor handwriting, having to write in capitals) and holding a pen or pencil in my own way and not like the normal way most people hold a pencil).
  • Difficulty in learning to ride a bike as a child; I eventually managed to, but after a lot of trying.
  • Inability to learn how to swim as a child and teenager (I still cannot swim).
  • Inability to catch objects thrown at me, such as a tennis ball, set of keys, and so forth. 
  • I get easily stressed, upset, anxious, etc, when faced with stressful situations.
  • Home sickness; after moving out of my parents home, I suffered severe home sickness and moved back in with my parents (possibly inability to cope with change and wanting the comfort blanket of the family home).
  • Not always looking at the person I am speaking to, such as looking left or right or with head bowed. 
  • Having an intense interest in hobbies and collecting; tabletop roleplaying games, collecting replica historical coins, collecting counterfeit one pound coins, BIG fan of Doctor Who (from 1980s to present day), limited interest in music but very intense interest in the few bands and solo artists that I am interested in, collected Doctor Who inspired LARP props, working as a volunteer for the same charity for 15 years, intense interest in reading about certain subjects rather than general reading, etc. 
  • In person, very quiet, stand-offish and reserved, not talking much, keeping to oneself; even in the company of some relations and friends, sometimes.
  • BUT… very communicative on social networking sites, Internet forums, email, etc. 
  • Difficulty with social interaction (see above) when in the company of complete strangers. 
  • Inability to cope with change and getting very upset and stressed and anxious in such circumstances.
  • Disliking physical contact when not wanted or asked for. 
  • In addition to disliking certain physical contact, I also have difficulty hugging people; I tend to hug people gingerly and nervously. 
  • Sometimes being unable to show empathy and unable to empathise with others, even though I know what it is to show empathy and how one does.   
  • Stimming; twisting and turning my head and neck, exaggeratingly nodding my head, rocking back and forth (especially when stressed or upset), scratching my arms, picking my nose (disgusting, I know), occasionally sucking my thumb, holding my forehead (when stressed, trying to think or when forgetful), amongst possible others. 
  • Possible hypersensitivity to smell or at least some smells (I hate the chlorine smell of bleach, for one example). 

I am politely curious as to how many of you share the above traits with me and what are your own traits, if not listed above? 

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  • I wish they would improve the way diagnoses are made. It just seems you qualify if you fit certain key things clinicians look for. Hence I suspect a lot of people don't get diagnosed who have a lot of AS traits. Similarly you only qualify for support or counselling if your traits are signicantly disabling. But if you are managing to be independent you just don't exist and get no help at all.

    I am very lucky. A lot of bad things happened when younger but I improved in my thirties - very late developer. I do not have dyslexia and being able to write well was an important compensation. For many years I couldn't live up to the expectations my writing implied, and though I could act out a good first impression, the "holes" showed very quickly afterwards. Gradually I've stage managed better formal interaction, but it just makes the contrast with informal socialising more marked.

    I hate the assumptions about eye contact. I'm told I have good eye contact, and I can briefly meet someone's eyes. Mostly I look at mouths. Up to my early twenties I looked down mostly when talking to people but was persuaded to look at people when talking to them, and I perceive lots of people who seem to have made that jump to "faking" eye contact. Its just the clinicians and scientists haven't caught up with that phenomenon. How do you tell people who look at noses, mounths or chins from those who look at eyes? And what does eye contact mean?

    The big problem is, as Hope points out several times, you do "improve" through need or social conditioning. That surely doesn't mean you are "cured". 

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  • I wish they would improve the way diagnoses are made. It just seems you qualify if you fit certain key things clinicians look for. Hence I suspect a lot of people don't get diagnosed who have a lot of AS traits. Similarly you only qualify for support or counselling if your traits are signicantly disabling. But if you are managing to be independent you just don't exist and get no help at all.

    I am very lucky. A lot of bad things happened when younger but I improved in my thirties - very late developer. I do not have dyslexia and being able to write well was an important compensation. For many years I couldn't live up to the expectations my writing implied, and though I could act out a good first impression, the "holes" showed very quickly afterwards. Gradually I've stage managed better formal interaction, but it just makes the contrast with informal socialising more marked.

    I hate the assumptions about eye contact. I'm told I have good eye contact, and I can briefly meet someone's eyes. Mostly I look at mouths. Up to my early twenties I looked down mostly when talking to people but was persuaded to look at people when talking to them, and I perceive lots of people who seem to have made that jump to "faking" eye contact. Its just the clinicians and scientists haven't caught up with that phenomenon. How do you tell people who look at noses, mounths or chins from those who look at eyes? And what does eye contact mean?

    The big problem is, as Hope points out several times, you do "improve" through need or social conditioning. That surely doesn't mean you are "cured". 

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