Why is my manager copying me?

I love my job and everything but I don't even know if he is actually copying me or is it just the way I think like is it ust me? Like last year when I started my job, his appearance of his hairstyle was all down not spiking up, but after more than a year of working there, I had plenty of haircuts and I had my hair spiking up longer at the front and everything, then I remember the first time he saw it he said he quite liked that, then I think about a few weeks later, his hairstyle was sort of the same but he changed the front to spiking up. I'm a young man and he's way older than me but then after that, I didn't wear the white clothes to work instead lately I worn a purple ish colour shirt to work then a few wees later, he started wearing a different colour shirt other than white like he picked a dark blue with a small tie what young people like my age would norammly wear, then recently, he keeps saying his hair aways stick up and it's huge when he did comment about mine doing that mainly a lot of times. I don't know why this annoys me but I really don't like the way he keeps copying me well if he is or it's just a coincidence anyway. It's so annoying me though, I want my personaility and style to be DIFFERENT than his, I don't want him to keep copying me anymore. He can change is appearance but he'll never be able to change his age to mine, he'll always be a lot older than me! Arghhh I don't know why, had to get it out there, he's a awesome person and everything good to get on with but I do get annoyed when he copys me, I'm the youngest worker in the whole firm at the moment and I don't know why but keep having this weird way of thinking that he's trying to look young like me!

Does aspergers make people think like this? Like a different way or strange ways of thinking, don't really know how to describe it.

Parents
  • It sounds to me like your manager is going through a mid-life crisis. Many middle aged men suddenly realise they are getting older and some try to present themselves as younger by copying young styles, buying sports cars, looking for young girlfriends etc. It's a bit sad, but quite common.

    It's nothing to do with you being Aspie, but it's very flattering that he rates your looks as the model to copy. He would not do this unless he admired you as a person too, because no-one wants to look like a person they don't respect.

    He probably doesn't realise how obvious he's being or how you feel about it. You clearly both get along well, which is the important thing. It would be a shame if his copying your style got in the way of what is otherwise a good working relationship, so if you just see it as a phase he is going through, perhaps it will be easier for you to cope with.

Reply
  • It sounds to me like your manager is going through a mid-life crisis. Many middle aged men suddenly realise they are getting older and some try to present themselves as younger by copying young styles, buying sports cars, looking for young girlfriends etc. It's a bit sad, but quite common.

    It's nothing to do with you being Aspie, but it's very flattering that he rates your looks as the model to copy. He would not do this unless he admired you as a person too, because no-one wants to look like a person they don't respect.

    He probably doesn't realise how obvious he's being or how you feel about it. You clearly both get along well, which is the important thing. It would be a shame if his copying your style got in the way of what is otherwise a good working relationship, so if you just see it as a phase he is going through, perhaps it will be easier for you to cope with.

Children
No Data