I moved to a big city a couple of years ago, because of problems with my ex, no work prospects, and thought I needed a fresh start. I live over 100 miles from my town I was used to. Now, over time I've found a great guy who looks after me very well and have a good-ish paying job. However, I've had to move in and out of several places within the city centre but now I've moved in with my partner and it's very cramped. We pay £750 a month rent for a one bedroom place that is about 40 sq m, or less, as the housing here is terrible. I find it very stressful living in the cramped space. If I could I would move back to my town in an instant, where housing is a third of the price, and the pace of life is much slower, but the work isn't there that I do, and the same for my partner.
To get space for a reasonable price we would need to move more than 10 miles out of the city. I've lived that far away from my job before but I was able to commute in my own car (there was no public transport for that area at the time anyway) but if I was to use my car to get to work a 10 miles journey would take me about an hour and the parking would be £200 a month, minimum. The only other option is bus journey. Same length of time, or longer, and would cost a minimum of £140 a month. The road system is really bad in this area, the council are always talking about what they are going to do about it, but they just seem to go round in circles.
The main problem is, after that ramble, I don't know if I can cope with feeling trapped. I pnic on public transport, and if I drove knowing I'd have to fight through traffic for an hour just to drive the 15 miles home fills me with anxiety. There are times when I have driven in rush hour and it took me nearly 30 minutes to do 1.4 miles :/
I'd love to move back home away from this, but I'm not going anywhere without my partner, and I can't make him give up a job he loves either just because I am scared of commuting. I'm maybe not looking for advice here, just expressing my troubles to anyone who will listen.
