Christmas!

How does anyone cope with Christmas and New Year social expectations?  Although I have very few friends, there's the obligation to buy presents which seems to have become swapping boxes of chocolates, chocolate biscuits or bottles of something.  Not forgetting the 'unwanted/unneeded' gifts.  Christmas cards to people you don't 'know'.

Fortunately (or not) we don't have any extended family who we feel obliged to invite for Christmas dinner - just as well as cooking is just not my thing!!

Now, I face a dilemma - hubs is a social animal which goes against the grain of us AuDHD'ers.  Another, sort of, fortunate thing is that we have a 'holiday lodge' on an Isle of Wight holiday park, so we leg it down there.  Yes, parties, but somehow the 'friends' we have down there are few and far between, plus they're not neighbours and seldom see them, so when I make a complete idiot of myself it's not as bad as being at home.  I cope by having too many bevvies and spending all my time on the dance floor.  I know they think I'm crazy down there, so being crazy and old kinda lets me get away with it - well that's what I keep trying to tell myself!

What do you do?

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  • During my youth, I'd put a lot of effort on Christmas and other social events. 

    Dad, and his dad too, would vanish for those events. I wondered, why? 

    As I grew older this became my natural mode as well. I think in advance how to say that I won't attend, and offer helping in some other way, or for a shorter time. Other times, I would be away and phone call them.

    Maybe it's profound empathy for others being disappointed, why some of us feel pulled in.

    But working out "reasonable adjustments" can be useful for a start.

  • I can well understand why some people prefer to get away at Christmas.

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