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Autism and can’t read between lines

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Anyone 2E and can’t read between lines? Or most have learned? Feel alone. 

Also tired of neurotypicals misunderstanding me and playing mind games. I’m not a bad person just been messed about with. 

Anyone else have issues with people thinking your not autistic when you are and having expectations of neurotypicals because of  the fact you’ve learned so much of thier thinking?

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  • That's something I have never been able to do.  For a very long time, I wondered what the expression meant; I mean, there is nothing between the lines!  How can it mean anything at all?  What a very strange idea.  Of course, age and life kick us around, and we learn a few things along the way, and it is yet another one of those 'unwritten rules' that we are expected to know and deal with whilst being armed with autism!

    Mind games?  I'm willing to bet that much of what you perceive as such is your autism misleading you.  Sure, there are idiots out there that revel in being idiots, but most people are too wrapped up in their own lives and problems to go out of their way to add to the misery of another.  Those few that do are usually well known to everyone and fairly easy to avoid, I've found.

    I can't answer your question because I have only been diagnosed for a very short time, although I have suspected for maybe three years.  But now that I know I am autistic, I realise why so many events have had odd results or why friends have reacted in unexpected ways over the years.  Perhaps being ancient (I am 69) and a late diagnosee is an advantage, as I have not had to deal with workplace drama/politics whilst knowingly being autistic, so my second-guessing of others was simply me being my own brand of weird.  But then, perhaps knowing would have been helpful; however, I am not going to spend my time agonising over something in the past that I cannot change.

    Returning to your feeling alone.  In the very few weeks I have been coming to this forum, I have found many caring people willing to share their thoughts and give helpful ideas for coping.  Stick around and join in; it's a friendly place.  More importantly, be kind to yourself.

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    Iago said:
    Perhaps being ancient (I am 69) and a late diagnosee is an advantage, as I have not had to deal with workplace drama/politics whilst knowingly being autistic,

    I feel very much the same. A very late diagnosis does have some benefits such as a lot of life experiences, as well as drawbacks such as a short "use by date"!
    However, not having to deal with employment, a lot of close family, social commitments, etc., has permitted me the time to come to terms with my diagnosis without struggling too much with the wider world.

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  • in reply to Iago
    Iago said:
    Perhaps being ancient (I am 69) and a late diagnosee is an advantage, as I have not had to deal with workplace drama/politics whilst knowingly being autistic,

    I feel very much the same. A very late diagnosis does have some benefits such as a lot of life experiences, as well as drawbacks such as a short "use by date"!
    However, not having to deal with employment, a lot of close family, social commitments, etc., has permitted me the time to come to terms with my diagnosis without struggling too much with the wider world.

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