I am in my early 50s, and my wife has told me she wants a divorce. This is second time round for me, as I have been divorced before. The reasons she no longer wants to be with me after 15 years is she says I am not affectionate or romantic, do not anticipate her needs, do not listen to her, and disappear into my own little world too much. She has been ill for a while, and I have been caring for her, and I think my love language is one of trying to provide service to her. She says that she could could put up with my failings when she was well, but now she is poorly, she can no longer tolerate to be with me.
Relationships are so complicated. I thought things were going well until around six months ago, but now she says they were not, but it didn't really matter at the time because she could put up with me. Now she says she still loves me but doesn't want to be with me.
I don't think my autistic traits have helped me. I have tried to be a good person and good husband, and she acknowledges I have have been trying harder recently, but it isn't enough for her to want to be with me.
I honestly think I am done with relationships. I can't seem to make anyone happy or to do what people expect or need. I am just seen as selfish and self absorbed, and it making me feel a pretty worthless and *** up human being right now.
