How do you cope?

Glad your diagnosis has helped you make sense of many things. I can identify with that.

I love researching online too, but not always for things to do with autism or ADHD. I watch YouTube occasionally, but I find the advertisements are too much 'in my face' and much prefer written information as I can control the speed and content of the details.

What are you interested in?

Paranoia setting in!!!  Hoping for a response - life fascinates (and scares) me.  I love gardening, I'm not great at it, but it's my place to escape, so I spend a lot of time researching plants, garden designs and the like.  I've just started (at 65!) to try and learn how to play the guitar - hmm, difficult with AuDHD, but it takes me away from things (music is a great coping and motivating thing).  Psychology, philosophy and research methodology are probably my greatest passion.  I do use the Internet a lot for ideas ("images of ...").  I also watch YouTube stuff (yeh, the adverts can be a nuisance, but some of them are interesting, particularly those that appear when I'm doing Solitaire).  I'm constantly looking for ideas.  Sometimes when I feel low I call on YouTube for something to cheer me up - animals doing funny things (although a lot of the videos are a bit naff).  I've recently started watching those Talent YouTubes, only those that show how amazing people are.

What I'm not interested in is politics, sport and gossip!!

The therapist I see says I need to find "like minded people" - hmm, surely there must be someone out there?!!!

Hope you respond X

Alexa said:

Maybe this site thinks I'm from Amazon, as this reply has been denied three times. 

The site is running slow at my end. My post didn’t appear until I refreshed the page.

Hmm.. male handwriting?

Maybe this site thinks I'm from Amazon, as this reply has been denied three times. 

ArchaeC said:

I wonder if people still perceive us to be a certain sex based on our employment title or how we write content. I

I think it's do with how we write. Taking that to extremes, one guy once told me he assumed I was male because of my handwriting! So strange.

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

My research knowledge is based on critiquing methodology; something I gained from studying psychology, but applies to all types of research.

Oh, yes! I took Psych 101 and social psychology courses for my degree, which helped supplement the reading I'd done before that (Dorothy Rowe, Robin Skynner and counselling training). Whenever I look up a claim about statistics thrown around the media, I track down the source study and check out the methodology before coming to a conclusion about the reliability of the conclusions. I wanted to major in psychology but my maths was too poor for the stats.

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

I'm currently doing a 'course' on understanding the Bible.

When I was a Christian, I read theology and biblical criticism (critical and literary analysis). I learnt enough Koine Greek to check out the original in the New Testament. I was hopeless at hebrew and gave that up early on. I also studied Christian history and helped run a bible study group for woemn for five or six years. Fortunately, I had three or four commentaries on enough books to share around, so everyone could take turns when we met up.They taught me a lot about childbirth and just being a 'normal' woman. I also studied Jewish history before I did all that. Mind you, I've forgotten a lot - it was all so long ago! 

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

I was conceived and born in Cyprus

I was saddened by the recent history of Greek Cyprus and wove it into one of my novels. Famagusta and the sell-offs of Greek homes.Terrible. 

Alexa said:

people used to think that of me when all they had to go was emails and I signed myself Alex.

I can understand how that happens. I hope you don’t get mixed up with Amazon’s Alexa on this thread. I had to be careful

Sometimes I wonder if people still perceive us to be a certain sex based on our employment title or how we write content. It’s interesting because I don’t talk much about or engage much in  ‘women specific issues’, unless it’s to do with discrimination. It’s not that I haven’t had or don’t have certain issues, I just don’t have interest in discussing them as much as other things. At the same time, I identify so much with other autistic women who don’t fit the stereotypical view of womanhood. 

I’m glad you find Alexa useful for support. I don’t use AI that much but I’ve used it to help me organise my home and to find reputable sources for information of interest. It’s far from being 100% trustworthy yet, so if I’m looking up something to do with, say history, I always check the sources.

I would think that critiquing psychology research methodology would be a compelling interest.  Do you create new methodologies? I’ve done a bit of that too (not psychology) in my student days - literature reviews, evaluating research methodologies and so on. I’m currently looking at gaps in the record in archaeological material culture that current research methodologies have failed to address. It’s a long term project and it could be adapted to work as a PhD proposal, although I’m not seeking a formal research studentship. I find it easier to find flaws in archaeological research than to create new methodologies that are different and rigorous enough to be of an acceptable standard.

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

I'm currently doing a 'course' on understanding the Bible.  Yes, I am religious (another in-depth subject) and fascinated by all religious beliefs.  The course I'm taking on the Bible has led me to trying to understand Judaism and why they have been persecuted throughout history.  Hmm, that goes into politics - aaaargh! 

I used to be a person of faith and did theology at uni before doing other subjects and archaeology, but now I’m agnostic. It’s difficult not to veer into politics when talking about religions of the Levant.

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

What to do when people ask where you're "from"; what do they mean?  I currently live in South Yorkshire, but I was conceived and born in Cyprus and since then have lived in many places (my Dad was in the RAF).  I was born on British soil, so I'm British. 

I understand your question to mean where were you born or where were you brought up. Yes, of course that may or may not be different from your nationality as ‘British soil’ is and was in many different places around the world, i.e. India.

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

I am so interested in trying to understand others.  Unfortunately, it often leads to my downfall when I ask about peoples culture - I get accused of being "racist" - hang on, we're all one 'race' - human beings!!  Don't get it?!!

I have had lifelong difficulty with relationships but I have learned that  people have different interpretations of culture.  Of course humans are one people, and that may make some people feel your question is irrelevant. Some people may think the question intrusive, or in some contexts dangerous, especially if you haven’t known the person very long. The question has become politicised among some people, so sometimes it’s better to avoid the question and focus more on finding out what people like to do and what ‘makes them get up in the morning’, rather than focusing on how they perceive their culture or heritage. Once you know a person for a while, they may be more open to answering you. People have discussed that sort of thing here, so it could be an interesting topic if you want to ask about people’s culture. You could always make a separate post and people would be free to respond or not.

I’m glad you find Alexa useful for support. I don’t use AI that much but I’ve used it to help me organise my home and to find reputable sources for information of interest. It’s far from being 100% trustworthy yet, so if I’m looking up something to do with, say history, I always check the sources.

I would think that critiquing psychology research methodology would be a compelling interest.  Do you create new methodologies? I’ve done a bit of that too (not psychology) in my student days - literature reviews, evaluating research methodologies and so on. I’m currently looking at gaps in the record in archaeological material culture that current research methodologies have failed to address. It’s a long term project and it could be adapted to work as a PhD proposal, although I’m not seeking a formal research studentship. I find it easier to find flaws in archaeological research than to create new methodologies that are different and rigorous enough to be of an acceptable standard.

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

I'm currently doing a 'course' on understanding the Bible.  Yes, I am religious (another in-depth subject) and fascinated by all religious beliefs.  The course I'm taking on the Bible has led me to trying to understand Judaism and why they have been persecuted throughout history.  Hmm, that goes into politics - aaaargh! 

I used to be a person of faith and did theology at uni before doing other subjects and archaeology, but now I’m agnostic. It’s difficult not to veer into politics when talking about religions of the Levant.

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

What to do when people ask where you're "from"; what do they mean?  I currently live in South Yorkshire, but I was conceived and born in Cyprus and since then have lived in many places (my Dad was in the RAF).  I was born on British soil, so I'm British. 

I understand your question to mean where were you born or where were you brought up. Yes, of course that may or may not be different from your nationality as ‘British soil’ is and was in many different places around the world, i.e. India.

ChrisRuthPeggy said:

I am so interested in trying to understand others.  Unfortunately, it often leads to my downfall when I ask about peoples culture - I get accused of being "racist" - hang on, we're all one 'race' - human beings!!  Don't get it?!!

I have had lifelong difficulty with relationships but I have learned that  people have different interpretations of culture.  Of course humans are one people, and that may make some people feel your question is irrelevant. Some people may think the question intrusive, or in some contexts dangerous, especially if you haven’t known the person very long. The question has become politicised among some people, so sometimes it’s better to avoid the question and focus more on finding out what people like to do and what ‘makes them get up in the morning’, rather than focusing on how they perceive their culture or heritage. Once you know a person for a while, they may be more open to answering you. People have discussed that sort of thing here, so it could be an interesting topic if you want to ask about people’s culture. You could always make a separate post and people would be free to respond or not.