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Touching, hugging , kissing

Marjorie195

I suspect this may be repetition for many, but how can I politely avoid the hugging and kissing that goes on these days.

I cringe inwardly and sometimes outwardly when people hug and kiss me without consent. I hate it. I go rigid. I have read that some on the spectrum find this sort of thing painful. I just hate it.

I saw a pregnant lady, out, in the summer, wearing a t shirt saying hands off my bump. I would love to have a t shirt saying "hands off me". Looking back, I suspect my parents were on the spectrum, and none of us are touchy feely.

More distant relatives and my husbands family are, but now friends, aquaintances and all and sundry seem to hug and kiss. Weddings and funerals are a nightmare.

I try to put up with their behaviour, but I do cringe and have attracted remarks like "have I got bad breath or something". It makes me uncomfortable, angry and embarrassed. I need a way of telling people politely that this sort of contact is not for me. Urrgghh

Does anyone share this revulsion and if so, how do they deal with it?

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  • In an era with such ready access to imformation, ignorance can only be willful. I did some wikireading and found that the law defines harm caused by ignorance to be "reckless" and as such punishable. In the instance of hugging without consent this would be reckless assault. Your preference for gentle education demonstrates your inherant good nature. 

    You state that women do not generally greet with a handshake, is there some other acceptble greeting gesture that you could employ to avoid the hug/kiss thing?

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  • In an era with such ready access to imformation, ignorance can only be willful. I did some wikireading and found that the law defines harm caused by ignorance to be "reckless" and as such punishable. In the instance of hugging without consent this would be reckless assault. Your preference for gentle education demonstrates your inherant good nature. 

    You state that women do not generally greet with a handshake, is there some other acceptble greeting gesture that you could employ to avoid the hug/kiss thing?

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