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Touching, hugging , kissing

Marjorie195

I suspect this may be repetition for many, but how can I politely avoid the hugging and kissing that goes on these days.

I cringe inwardly and sometimes outwardly when people hug and kiss me without consent. I hate it. I go rigid. I have read that some on the spectrum find this sort of thing painful. I just hate it.

I saw a pregnant lady, out, in the summer, wearing a t shirt saying hands off my bump. I would love to have a t shirt saying "hands off me". Looking back, I suspect my parents were on the spectrum, and none of us are touchy feely.

More distant relatives and my husbands family are, but now friends, aquaintances and all and sundry seem to hug and kiss. Weddings and funerals are a nightmare.

I try to put up with their behaviour, but I do cringe and have attracted remarks like "have I got bad breath or something". It makes me uncomfortable, angry and embarrassed. I need a way of telling people politely that this sort of contact is not for me. Urrgghh

Does anyone share this revulsion and if so, how do they deal with it?

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    Former Member

    Or, alternatively, you learn to not let it bother you. I have an aged aunt, who is very far down the spectrum, who is so oblivious to our fairly obvious disdain for her hugs and kisses that we just put up with it. It is over quite quickly, it simply isn't like having a hypodermic shoved in your arm or the dentist drilling a tooth. There is no point in making anything of this, just shut your eyes and think of England and it will be over before you know whats happened.

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    Former Member

    Or, alternatively, you learn to not let it bother you. I have an aged aunt, who is very far down the spectrum, who is so oblivious to our fairly obvious disdain for her hugs and kisses that we just put up with it. It is over quite quickly, it simply isn't like having a hypodermic shoved in your arm or the dentist drilling a tooth. There is no point in making anything of this, just shut your eyes and think of England and it will be over before you know whats happened.

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