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Family Party

Roy

I’m becoming very stressed over an upcoming family party, it’s next month and it’s my mothers 80th birthday. 
It’s being held in her house and a lot of people have been invited, I know it will become very noisy and involve a lot of alcohol. 
Im expected to be there, it’s known I will struggle and shutdown but I will still be expected to sit there and pretend to be enjoying it. I know the “cheer up or can’t you just try?” Comments will start, it’s making more anxious as the day draws closer. It’s actually making me feel ill.

I live there when I’m working, so there is no escape. I don’t want special treatment, I just need to be left alone. Messages are pinging back and forth about what party drinking games they could do, I’ve been alcohol free for two and a half years, I don’t want to go back to the old me. If I was to mention autism to any of them, I know it would just lead to stupid comments. Sorry just venting but I know you are the only people who would understand.

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  • HI    and  , the party was on Saturday night, I stayed in my room and watched a favourite film. My wife brought in a  plate of food and I was left alone.

    All the food was beige as it’s all my family eat,  my niece didn’t attend as she had a meltdown and refused to go out, I’m starting to think I might not be the only autistic person in the family. I’m still the only one who accepts autism exists.

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       I’m so happy you have been supported, or if that’s your experience anyway. You’ve inspired me a bit becuase Xmas is coming and I have a family member who won’t like it when I refuse the numerous Sleepytherings including presents. So far havnt been brave enough to say no but I will soon enough Sleepy As long as you are happy that’s all that matters. Family can be the least supportive out of anyone  I think 

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       I’m so happy you have been supported, or if that’s your experience anyway. You’ve inspired me a bit becuase Xmas is coming and I have a family member who won’t like it when I refuse the numerous Sleepytherings including presents. So far havnt been brave enough to say no but I will soon enough Sleepy As long as you are happy that’s all that matters. Family can be the least supportive out of anyone  I think 

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