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Family Party

Roy

I’m becoming very stressed over an upcoming family party, it’s next month and it’s my mothers 80th birthday. 
It’s being held in her house and a lot of people have been invited, I know it will become very noisy and involve a lot of alcohol. 
Im expected to be there, it’s known I will struggle and shutdown but I will still be expected to sit there and pretend to be enjoying it. I know the “cheer up or can’t you just try?” Comments will start, it’s making more anxious as the day draws closer. It’s actually making me feel ill.

I live there when I’m working, so there is no escape. I don’t want special treatment, I just need to be left alone. Messages are pinging back and forth about what party drinking games they could do, I’ve been alcohol free for two and a half years, I don’t want to go back to the old me. If I was to mention autism to any of them, I know it would just lead to stupid comments. Sorry just venting but I know you are the only people who would understand.

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  • That sounds like an awful time.

    Maybe perhaps, you can pop out when it starts getting too much, to buy something you've forgotten at a shop that's quite far away (like the town over), then return with a bag of ice/ chocolates /snacks, something that makes them all feel you were thinking of them. And perhaps a specific non-alcoholic beverage to iterate your non-drinking stance? Just on top of the other suggestions to give yourself a break away from it too.

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  • That sounds like an awful time.

    Maybe perhaps, you can pop out when it starts getting too much, to buy something you've forgotten at a shop that's quite far away (like the town over), then return with a bag of ice/ chocolates /snacks, something that makes them all feel you were thinking of them. And perhaps a specific non-alcoholic beverage to iterate your non-drinking stance? Just on top of the other suggestions to give yourself a break away from it too.

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