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Did you have a happy or unhappy childhood?

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This is partly research as I've spoken on another thread about the fact that I don't remember anyone on this forum over the years saying that they had a happy childhood.

Rather a lot of us seem to in particular had very unhappy home lives.

I wonder if that is significant?

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  • Like that of others mine was mixed, the good times were good but infrequent and the abuse go worse the older I got. I'm not sure how much was to do with undiagnosed autism, not as much as other factors I suspect, living with a binge alcoholic, who was depressed, sleep deprived and violent caused more problems than anything else.

    Never having played with more than one child before school didn't help as I was totally unsocialised and didn't know how to be around other children. My family was different to that of many of my class mates and that was picked up on and used as a stick to beat me with. If others asked about things my family did differently, I didn't know how to answer, why they were asking and if I asked my parents they'd just get cross, understandably so looking back at it as an adult.

    There were a great deal of social changes when I was growing up, teachers in particular didn't like them, I remember some of the male teachers practically rampaging around the school the day the equal opportunities bill was passed, shouting at us that we'd all still end up selling spuds in woollies before having babies. There was a lot of sexual abuse around too, not just at school, but in life in general which made life really difficult for so many women and girls. 

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  • Like that of others mine was mixed, the good times were good but infrequent and the abuse go worse the older I got. I'm not sure how much was to do with undiagnosed autism, not as much as other factors I suspect, living with a binge alcoholic, who was depressed, sleep deprived and violent caused more problems than anything else.

    Never having played with more than one child before school didn't help as I was totally unsocialised and didn't know how to be around other children. My family was different to that of many of my class mates and that was picked up on and used as a stick to beat me with. If others asked about things my family did differently, I didn't know how to answer, why they were asking and if I asked my parents they'd just get cross, understandably so looking back at it as an adult.

    There were a great deal of social changes when I was growing up, teachers in particular didn't like them, I remember some of the male teachers practically rampaging around the school the day the equal opportunities bill was passed, shouting at us that we'd all still end up selling spuds in woollies before having babies. There was a lot of sexual abuse around too, not just at school, but in life in general which made life really difficult for so many women and girls. 

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