Disagreements when someone is very obviously wrong

This is my first time posting anything on here so apologies if it’s in the wrong place or whatever.


I’ve been finding myself getting more and more frustrated especially at home when having discussions about anything that seems so straight forward yet people feel the need to argue about it? I am quite good at articulating myself when I’m speaking about something that is correct, so when I try and explain things as black and white as possible and get told that I’m wrong it makes me so mad. I understand listening to someone else’s opinion if it’s something that can be subjective, but when what I am saying isn’t really up for negotiation and I’m still getting questioned about how I feel on the matter when it’s very obviously either a right or wrong answer I literally want to explode. My most recent fave rage inducing time this happened, my mum snapped at me and said something along the lines of ‘clearly that whole only being able to see your side thing is because of how you are (autistic)’ instead of even trying to hear the words coming out of my mouth, like why are you saying that so maliciously instead of actually listening when I was just making a simple point.  Also I get very anxious about arguing my point if I might be wrong so I don’t even try it unless I am fully confident in what I am saying. How am I supposed to navigate this when as soon as I’m right they turn petty or simply just insult me.

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  • I think I know what you mean. I got very, very wound up with a very close friend recently, and we weren't really talking about anything controversial. It was like what I was saying was not what he was hearing, and I couldn't cope with it.

    I think the autism probably plays a part, for me that provides black & white perspective and literal comprehension. I understand that many in the UK population are a 'High Context' lot, and this can very easily clash... Essentially - I'll say what I mean, but they don't, nor do they interpret what I say literally, but in a way that their context interprets it!!

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  • I think I know what you mean. I got very, very wound up with a very close friend recently, and we weren't really talking about anything controversial. It was like what I was saying was not what he was hearing, and I couldn't cope with it.

    I think the autism probably plays a part, for me that provides black & white perspective and literal comprehension. I understand that many in the UK population are a 'High Context' lot, and this can very easily clash... Essentially - I'll say what I mean, but they don't, nor do they interpret what I say literally, but in a way that their context interprets it!!

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