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"Dear Harriet" - agony aunt for ND problems (for fun!)

Alexa

Magazines and newspapers used to have an “agony aunt” column, where people could ask for advice about relationships. So, how about an ND-problems agony aunt?

What’s your question?


Dear Harriet

How can I get my NT neighbours to stop dropping by and ringing my doorbell without warning? They seem unsure and surprised when I answer the door in my pyjamas with unwashed hair on days when I’m not expecting anyone. Should I post a notice on the door to ring come back in half an hour?

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  • Dear Harriet, is it acceptable behaviour to hide elsewhere in the house when someone is visiting?

  • in reply to Hergé

    Hi Hergé, what an interesting query!

    If the visitor is unbidden (say, a burglar) then it is acceptable and indeed advisable to find a safe space.

    If, however, you or a family member has actually invited the person in, then it is a matter of how long you intend to hide and whether you will be discovered. A lengthy trip to the bathroom (for respite or silent scream purposes, easily covered as a gippy tummy) or a lie-in (so tired - sorry!) may pass without comment but a hours-long disappearance in the day may even prompt a search and rescue party fearful of the absent person having befallen some injury or mishap!

    Perhaps it may be worth being honest with the visitor about your needs, or having a briefish prior engagement mid-visit (flagged up front) or trimming their next invitation to a duration you can handle?

    Hope this helps. 

    Yours, from the airing cupboard (they'll go soon),

    'H'

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  • in reply to Hergé

    Hi Hergé, what an interesting query!

    If the visitor is unbidden (say, a burglar) then it is acceptable and indeed advisable to find a safe space.

    If, however, you or a family member has actually invited the person in, then it is a matter of how long you intend to hide and whether you will be discovered. A lengthy trip to the bathroom (for respite or silent scream purposes, easily covered as a gippy tummy) or a lie-in (so tired - sorry!) may pass without comment but a hours-long disappearance in the day may even prompt a search and rescue party fearful of the absent person having befallen some injury or mishap!

    Perhaps it may be worth being honest with the visitor about your needs, or having a briefish prior engagement mid-visit (flagged up front) or trimming their next invitation to a duration you can handle?

    Hope this helps. 

    Yours, from the airing cupboard (they'll go soon),

    'H'

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