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Burnout, Feelings and recovery

googlefox

Hi,  I have a diagnosis of Audhd.  I have known for a while that I had ADHD but have only recently come to understand that Autism is also part of the mix that is me.  This question relates to an ex partner:  Can anyone here help me understand how autistic burnout affects feelings and emotions?  Has anyone here ended a relationship during burnout because they did not have the capacity to be in a relationship and then find that they recovered and their capacity and feelings returned?  Or is it more likely that the burnout its self leads to a permanent shift in capacity and what is needed and so the reduced ability to emotionally connect is more likely to be permanent.  I am asking this because I am trying to understand and support someone that I care very deeply for.  If anyone is able to share their views or experience I would be very grateful,  Thank you.

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  • Hi, 

    I am in my 70s and male and have had several autistic burnouts over the years. One very deep burnout, led, I think to me ultimately divorcing my ex. who effectively had abandoned our family. I do feel my burnouts were temporary as they were always triggered by something. Obviously every event is life changing but I don't feel burnouts changed me permanently. My current relationship is 25+ years old and I have had some burnouts during this time. I never really wanted help with burnouts just peace and practical support to help me to the light again. 

       

  • in reply to Oscar

    @Oscar.  Thanks for replying Oscar.  It is good to hear that you recovered from burnout and have gone on to have a lovely relationship which has lasted so long.  Part of my fear is not that i (and i know this was not wise) used AI to try to understand what was going on and it advised that burnout is almost certainly an event that brings a permanent change - i am begining to understand that its not true.  I know it is possible that post burnout, people may have a better understanding and respect for their capacity,  but that is not the change in personality that I had understood and been so upset about. I may re-ask my question in a clearer way as I think there is an underlying ask which is not as clear in my post as it should be.  Thank you again for taking the time to reach out and reply.  

  • in reply to googlefox

    Hi again, 

    Do keep asking questions on this site. There are so many people with lots of experience of autism here.  Naturally, given the wide range of autism, you will receive similar to very differing answers. However, they are real people with real experience and are usually quite precise in what they say and how they phrase it. 

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  • in reply to googlefox

    Hi again, 

    Do keep asking questions on this site. There are so many people with lots of experience of autism here.  Naturally, given the wide range of autism, you will receive similar to very differing answers. However, they are real people with real experience and are usually quite precise in what they say and how they phrase it. 

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