https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdew81wd2y8o
Warning: unsettling especially for those late diagnosed.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdew81wd2y8o
Warning: unsettling especially for those late diagnosed.
Only my opinion and here comes the but, only autistic people can truly understand autism, unless you experience it and live with it on a daily basis daily, you can’t fully comprehend it. We had to learn how to seem normal, we observed, made mental notes and even rehearsed when on our own with no guidance.
Experts only know what we have allowed them to see and try to explain, that’s when we are able and feel actually safe enough to do so.
The growing bigotry against autism comes down to cost, the fear is that more people with a disability equals tax payer cost, most of us go out into the world everyday and try out best and ask for nothing. Those who can’t manage without help should be helped financially and with support.
I spent over three years waiting for a diagnosis, a positive diagnosis isn’t just handed out, it’s very invasive. if a doctor asks what I hoped to achieve from an assessment ? My answer is validation, finally understanding why I’m like I am and it answers why my life has been such utter chaos.
Even after diagnosis or self identification, we carry on going through hell as all the lost years and catastrophes start being processed, I still buy myself very little, my wife will sometimes ask if I would like something, I always reply no. Secretly I still believe I’m a bad person who should be punished and deserves nothing. Does this sound like someone who wants a trendy ‘label’? On bad days I still shut myself away as I don’t want people to experience my autism. I’ve found the most used word from autistic people is sorry, I personally find I’m always apologetic for something that’s not really my fault, and guess what? I don’t look autistic!
My answer is validation, finally understanding why I’m like I am and it answers why my life has been such utter chaos.
Yes, this is the nub of it - an identity.
Yes, this is the nub of it - an identity.
Not so much an identity for me but more the solution to a puzzle and a blueprint to move forward.
In the original tv series Quantum Leap, Sam was always trying to get home, just when he thought he was finally going home, he would leap into another situation. It’s that feeling of finally coming home, wandering in the dark and finding your tribe. It was as if they were always there but I just couldn’t see them.
More important than identity is for me belonging and support in social interactions.
Is helping someone accept themselves something bad? Isn't it part of a medical purpose?
I would say it is the prime purpose of therapists. Low self esteem is an awful thing, and often pushed upon people who themsevles have low self esteem to make themselves feel better. I've had so-called 'friends' making 'jokes' about my weight until I got wise and ditched these fiends.
So what I can do with the identity "inferior to others"?
Say to yourself that the problem lies with them, not you [for the above reason]. Then dust yourself off, and start afresh, doing things and being around people who make you feel better about yourself. They will become your truest friends.
Identity is part if us and our lives. Critics say, it's just an identity diagnosis. Then people ask me, why I have such a low self esteem. It's because my life proved to me many times, that im inferior to others. So what I can do with the identity "inferior to others"? - many just sit down and refuse to work on themselves or anything, because they know, that they ate inferior and designed to fail. But if the identity changes, for many people it's an inpuls to understand themselves better, be more compassionate with themselves, start working on changes to ballance what they are expected and what they can do. As Paul Michalleff said "meet me halfway". Is helping someone accept themselves something bad? Isn't it part of a medical purpose?
Identity is part if us and our lives. Critics say, it's just an identity diagnosis. Then people ask me, why I have such a low self esteem. It's because my life proved to me many times, that im inferior to others. So what I can do with the identity "inferior to others"? - many just sit down and refuse to work on themselves or anything, because they know, that they ate inferior and designed to fail. But if the identity changes, for many people it's an inpuls to understand themselves better, be more compassionate with themselves, start working on changes to ballance what they are expected and what they can do. As Paul Michalleff said "meet me halfway". Is helping someone accept themselves something bad? Isn't it part of a medical purpose?
More important than identity is for me belonging and support in social interactions.
Is helping someone accept themselves something bad? Isn't it part of a medical purpose?
I would say it is the prime purpose of therapists. Low self esteem is an awful thing, and often pushed upon people who themsevles have low self esteem to make themselves feel better. I've had so-called 'friends' making 'jokes' about my weight until I got wise and ditched these fiends.
So what I can do with the identity "inferior to others"?
Say to yourself that the problem lies with them, not you [for the above reason]. Then dust yourself off, and start afresh, doing things and being around people who make you feel better about yourself. They will become your truest friends.
