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what do I feel

Tlc

I had trouble in my training/college programme over the last 2 years because of communication/social difficulties and I was diagnosed a few months ago with Asperers Syndrome and I informed the college. I just started back for my final year and after a meeting last week I have been dismissed from the training programme. I have been working towards this for many years and my chosen career path has now been taken away.

When they told me it was over I didn't know how to react. I just sat there emotionless. This was about 5 days ago. Since then I have not known what to do and I don't know how to express what I feel because I don't know what I am feeling.

I haven't cried, I haven't shouted... just nothing. As if I am empty.

I am not depressed but I am very confused.

This must sound very odd. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Any advice about how to overcome this?

Thanks

T.

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    tlc,

    Have you given any thought about what to do next? Do you think you want to fight their decision or do you think you want to move on and perhaps learn what your strengths are and to develop your communication and interpersonal skills to have a better life with your diagnosed condition?

    On the expression of emotions, I think we have difficulties because we struggle to work out what the exact right thing to say is in an emotional situation. In the end, there is sometimes no exact 'right thing' to say but sometimes it is useful to just say something even if it is trivial or meaningless or perhaps not intellectually, rigorously correct. We also have probably got experiences of saying the wrong thing and, rather than get over it and not worry about it, we opt for a tactic of saying nothing as this might be less catastrophic than opening our mouths.

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    tlc,

    Have you given any thought about what to do next? Do you think you want to fight their decision or do you think you want to move on and perhaps learn what your strengths are and to develop your communication and interpersonal skills to have a better life with your diagnosed condition?

    On the expression of emotions, I think we have difficulties because we struggle to work out what the exact right thing to say is in an emotional situation. In the end, there is sometimes no exact 'right thing' to say but sometimes it is useful to just say something even if it is trivial or meaningless or perhaps not intellectually, rigorously correct. We also have probably got experiences of saying the wrong thing and, rather than get over it and not worry about it, we opt for a tactic of saying nothing as this might be less catastrophic than opening our mouths.

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