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what do I feel

Tlc

I had trouble in my training/college programme over the last 2 years because of communication/social difficulties and I was diagnosed a few months ago with Asperers Syndrome and I informed the college. I just started back for my final year and after a meeting last week I have been dismissed from the training programme. I have been working towards this for many years and my chosen career path has now been taken away.

When they told me it was over I didn't know how to react. I just sat there emotionless. This was about 5 days ago. Since then I have not known what to do and I don't know how to express what I feel because I don't know what I am feeling.

I haven't cried, I haven't shouted... just nothing. As if I am empty.

I am not depressed but I am very confused.

This must sound very odd. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Any advice about how to overcome this?

Thanks

T.

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  • Marjorie195 said:

    I often know what other people feel, when misfortune strikes, why do they assume that I do not feel anything, just because I stay silent?

    Its an interesting question. I think its because a suffering NT seeks someone to share the misery with whereas someone with AS is more likely to process the discomfort quietly by themselves, and NT theory of mind provides insight based on the fallacy "everbody thinks like me", this leading them to the position "if an event bothered me, I would say so therefor if [event] bothered [person] then they would say so; because [person] hasnt verbalised distress over [event] than they must not be bothered by it"  

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  • Marjorie195 said:

    I often know what other people feel, when misfortune strikes, why do they assume that I do not feel anything, just because I stay silent?

    Its an interesting question. I think its because a suffering NT seeks someone to share the misery with whereas someone with AS is more likely to process the discomfort quietly by themselves, and NT theory of mind provides insight based on the fallacy "everbody thinks like me", this leading them to the position "if an event bothered me, I would say so therefor if [event] bothered [person] then they would say so; because [person] hasnt verbalised distress over [event] than they must not be bothered by it"  

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