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what do I feel

Tlc

I had trouble in my training/college programme over the last 2 years because of communication/social difficulties and I was diagnosed a few months ago with Asperers Syndrome and I informed the college. I just started back for my final year and after a meeting last week I have been dismissed from the training programme. I have been working towards this for many years and my chosen career path has now been taken away.

When they told me it was over I didn't know how to react. I just sat there emotionless. This was about 5 days ago. Since then I have not known what to do and I don't know how to express what I feel because I don't know what I am feeling.

I haven't cried, I haven't shouted... just nothing. As if I am empty.

I am not depressed but I am very confused.

This must sound very odd. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Any advice about how to overcome this?

Thanks

T.

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    You do need to talk about this and this forum is a really great place to start. Talking about things helps you to go through and work out different scenarios and to work out all of the pros and cons of your predicament.

    Depression isn't altogether related to sadness. Clinical depression is a thing that most people won't understand until it hits them. Even then, you won't recognise it until afterwards. I don't think that now is the time to go down that route as your GP won't really be able to help you work out what to do next.

    Your husband sounds very understanding so I would suggest that you start talking to him. I know how hard this will be for you. You have gone through a massive disappointment so I would be surprised if you get any further without a few tears. There is a well known cycle that people go through when something like this happens. Denial - depression - acceptance - recovery are, I think, the phases. Depression here doesn't really mean the clinical thing but more of a sadness or short term issue. If it lasts longer, or if it is causing major issues, then you may need to call for help.

    I'm afraid to say that they might have made a sensible decision. Not all people are cut out to do all types of jobs. However, I am quite sure that the church will have various roles and some of the attributes of ASD such as honesty and integrity are hard wired into us more than many other people so I would not give up on a career in the church. I expect that they should be able to provide some advice and counselling for you in this situation and I would strongly recommend seeking their advice and assistance. If a church can't help you then what is the point?

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    You do need to talk about this and this forum is a really great place to start. Talking about things helps you to go through and work out different scenarios and to work out all of the pros and cons of your predicament.

    Depression isn't altogether related to sadness. Clinical depression is a thing that most people won't understand until it hits them. Even then, you won't recognise it until afterwards. I don't think that now is the time to go down that route as your GP won't really be able to help you work out what to do next.

    Your husband sounds very understanding so I would suggest that you start talking to him. I know how hard this will be for you. You have gone through a massive disappointment so I would be surprised if you get any further without a few tears. There is a well known cycle that people go through when something like this happens. Denial - depression - acceptance - recovery are, I think, the phases. Depression here doesn't really mean the clinical thing but more of a sadness or short term issue. If it lasts longer, or if it is causing major issues, then you may need to call for help.

    I'm afraid to say that they might have made a sensible decision. Not all people are cut out to do all types of jobs. However, I am quite sure that the church will have various roles and some of the attributes of ASD such as honesty and integrity are hard wired into us more than many other people so I would not give up on a career in the church. I expect that they should be able to provide some advice and counselling for you in this situation and I would strongly recommend seeking their advice and assistance. If a church can't help you then what is the point?

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