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I'm the last one to understand

Alien0n3arth

It's about my job and new courses where we, employers are supposed to be good at reading customer's body language and catch it if a customer is behaving nervous. It's important for two things- robbery,  that occurs from time to time. It turned out I was nearby twice, when a customer stole an item. But I had no idea about it. And possible illegal activity. I can't share much detail about this one, but there we are also supposed to catch a suspiciously behaving customer and report the case to the police. How on earth am I supposed to catch it? I can understand some of expressions to some degree, depending also on how clear they are, only if I'm concentrated on the person and only if I know them and the pattern of their behaviour. 

When it comes to patterns it turns out, this one is also working against me. Some time ago one lady stole quite much money from the safe. She was an employee in the company. Quite recently it turned out, I was present at the very moment of stealing money but I didn't know about it and didn't report anything. Because in our company there is surprisingly high number of couples in relationship between our colleagues, and from time to time someone locks themselves in a room to have some privacy, or they go to the backyard behind containers. So I was sure, that she locked herself in the main office because there was something intimate going on and maybe hiding some other colleague without clothes and i interrupted them. Then it turned out I interrupted her in stealing money. I had an envelope with documents that arrived that day from our headquarters and simply needed to leave it upstarirs for the management. 

Am I an idiot, goof or would anyone here think the same thing as me? Looks like an official diagnosis maybe life saving for me, if it's autism. Or other diagnosis accordingly. Sorry for long rant. I hope I won't end up having issues with the ław or being fired. 

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  • No, you are definitely neither an idiot or a goof. But I have to wonder if some of your work colleagues, and possibly management as well, qualify for either or both of those descriptions given what you've alluded to. It sounds like the company is highly dysfunctional, and you might want to consider making plans to hand in your notice.

  • in reply to SpiffyVoxel

    Yes there is a lot of pathology there, like i was also kicked out of the office, because of one my colleague who wanted his privacy with his girlfriend in our office. Nothing happened to him, he is still working. But it's me who was suspected of stealing when something disappeared, because I'm an antisocial weirdo. But my manager stood by my side thank goodness and now im ok. I can't just leave, because although I have a bachelor degree in logistics and Spedition,  it's very hard for me to get any job, I lack charm, I can't do small talk, I'm not so likeable and I had piles of refusals when I looked for job. Now I work for minimum wage, my former colleagues make much better career, even people who don't have any degree at all. So knowing that im just sitting there and enjoying the fact that I work relatively less with customers and I have my stability. Although this job makes me exhausted. 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    You come across on here as likeable, I'm not a fan of office dynamics and don't really understand them, they seem ultra NT places.

    It's good your manager was supportive.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I have been thinking about this a lot this week. How do the 2 very different neuroworlds exist together and yet are virtual strangers to one another. Since my recent diagnosis I do not feel quite as tolerant of NTs and I am too old to be a militant!  

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    I wonder how NT's would feel if they were put into a predominately ND space?

    In the workplace there are only around 1% to 2% of the staff who are autistic so when a NT is used to a world where they are in the the vast majority then they probably feel entitled to tell us how we should behave to be able to co-exist with the other 98-99% of workers.

    Having a workplace made up of NDs would be quite interesting to see as I am sure there will be autists infuriated by messy ADHD'ers, loads of people not wanting to interact with one another and all sorts of communication mess ups.

    We are such a disparate bunch even just in autism that I fear such an environment would be doomed to have everyone off sick with stress.

    At least the staff handbook would be 10,000 pages long to explain every minutia of detail on how to behave in the workplace though ...

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    I wonder how NT's would feel if they were put into a predominately ND space? Would they feel as out of place in "our" spaces as we do in theirs, or would they automaically assume they had to tell us how to behave? It would be interesting if they didn't know they were in a predominantly ND space, would they feel excluded because no one was doing all the small talk, that there wasn't constant chatter and noise, how would they cope with being told they were weird?

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  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    I wonder how NT's would feel if they were put into a predominately ND space? Would they feel as out of place in "our" spaces as we do in theirs, or would they automaically assume they had to tell us how to behave? It would be interesting if they didn't know they were in a predominantly ND space, would they feel excluded because no one was doing all the small talk, that there wasn't constant chatter and noise, how would they cope with being told they were weird?

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I have been thinking about this a lot this week. How do the 2 very different neuroworlds exist together and yet are virtual strangers to one another. Since my recent diagnosis I do not feel quite as tolerant of NTs and I am too old to be a militant!  

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    I wonder how NT's would feel if they were put into a predominately ND space?

    In the workplace there are only around 1% to 2% of the staff who are autistic so when a NT is used to a world where they are in the the vast majority then they probably feel entitled to tell us how we should behave to be able to co-exist with the other 98-99% of workers.

    Having a workplace made up of NDs would be quite interesting to see as I am sure there will be autists infuriated by messy ADHD'ers, loads of people not wanting to interact with one another and all sorts of communication mess ups.

    We are such a disparate bunch even just in autism that I fear such an environment would be doomed to have everyone off sick with stress.

    At least the staff handbook would be 10,000 pages long to explain every minutia of detail on how to behave in the workplace though ...