Is it considered abnormal for a human to have absolutely no interest in any form of relationship? For example, friendship, colleagues, romantic partner, pets etc.
Is it considered abnormal for a human to have absolutely no interest in any form of relationship? For example, friendship, colleagues, romantic partner, pets etc.
Being a hermit must have attracted some people with a less social nature. Monastic communal living was a respected alternative available.
The pious ascetic Nikephoros II Phokas was a soldier and became emperor of Byzantium. He lived in the incredible luxury of the Great Palace in Constantinople. However, he habitually slept on the floor and after he was assassinated by his nephew, John I Tzimiskes, it was discovered that under his imperial purple robes he wore a hair shirt to mortify his flesh.
I'd say from my experience it's relatively common with autistic people. I have two acquittances who could genuinely go years without even socializing, let alone more. I'm the opposite however. I went my early teens like the above, never really wanting a GF/BF or even lots of friends, then I met my first ex and realized I would like one someday. Sadly as I'm getting older I now feel time has passed me by and I need to tolerate a life without a relationship, and realistically, close friends too. I envy the people who are asexual and can live alone contently, I really truly do, I genuinely feel they're using a magical technique I don't have access to at this point.
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I meant the dictionary definition. I've just realised I've asked a question on this forum that I could have just googled myself. I've made this mistake on here before. My bad. Sorry.
To be clear, I was not insinuating anything about myself or anyone else. I was just trying to find out some information.
Sorry I don't understand why my comment was so funny?
More trouble than they're worth 
I feel the pull towards monasticism, maybe at some point I will live like that, but not now and maybe not in this life.
I would presume its abnormal as most people seem to desire friends and relationships . There are many autistic people who also seem to desire these things but simply give up on them.
Is it considered abnormal for a human to have absolutely no interest in any form of relationship?
If you consider abnormal to be the opposite of normal (using the dictionary definition of Not typical, usual, or regular; not normal; deviant ) then I think it is.
A quick look at statistics shows that around 70% of adults are in some form of romantic relationship and I suspect quite a large part of the remaining 30% are looking for this too, so if you base it just on what is normal across the board then it is abnormal.
However, the word abnormal can be a loaded on and while it is technically accurate, it is not typically used because if suggests something is wrong to many people when it is quite acceptable for you to choose not to want this.
Rather than focussing on the behaviour of the masses I would focus on the fact you have thought this through and made the decision that you don't want to be like everybody else and are advocating for your own needs.
I don’t want a romantic relationship either. I’m happier on my own at home, although I do have friends.
I was asking whether it was abnormal generally...
It was once considered praiseworthy, within the tradition of eremitic monasticism
In Christian monasticism it was considered worthy but most still desired romantic or close human relationships, yet they chose to embrace ‘higher causes’.
I'm friendly to most and friends with few and this is how I like it. I certainly want no more romantic relationships, menopause look my libido and without that I don't see the point of a relationship, they're more trouble than they're worth.
I think i feel that way now as years of trying and ruining everything with everyone has left me feeling nothing will ever work out, So whilst i feel like you i believe i have a reason for it . However i have also found the less people in my life the less complex life is which is definitely beneficial for me . If that's the way you feel i wouldn't even consider whether its normal/abnormal just embrace it . who knows one day it may change .
It was once considered praiseworthy, within the tradition of eremitic monasticism. Essentially, being away from others was thought to bring a hermit monk closer to God.
In general, humans are an extremely social species, as are all great apes, so having no desire for social relationships is unusual.
