Help pls

So, my mother needs major surgery, the removal of a kidney due to a large tumour. She has, to date been in hospital for ten days. I find hospitals difficult for both sensory and social anxiety reasons. I have visited three times for about an hour on each occasion. My sister-in-law, whom I despise and who has nothing but contempt for me, believes this to be markedly insufficient and has been discussing my visiting negatively with others. This has been reducing my ability to a, go to the hospital and b, go/do any other necessary thing (such as shopping, I now have no food) as anytime I am able to go out I am confronted by the necessity of visiting the hospital. I recieve phone calls from relatives I've never met berating me for not visiting enough. Im doing what I can. What do I do?

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    "as well as can be expected" doesn't really have a straightforward black and white translation. Perhaps that's an ASD problem: Looking for a direct answer when it's a vague, shade of grey phrase. Even if you found someone who had the same operation they would feel different afterwards.

    Sorry if this doesn't help much. Perhaps it would help if you asked some simple questions such ad "does it hurt much?"

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    "as well as can be expected" doesn't really have a straightforward black and white translation. Perhaps that's an ASD problem: Looking for a direct answer when it's a vague, shade of grey phrase. Even if you found someone who had the same operation they would feel different afterwards.

    Sorry if this doesn't help much. Perhaps it would help if you asked some simple questions such ad "does it hurt much?"

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