Help pls

So, my mother needs major surgery, the removal of a kidney due to a large tumour. She has, to date been in hospital for ten days. I find hospitals difficult for both sensory and social anxiety reasons. I have visited three times for about an hour on each occasion. My sister-in-law, whom I despise and who has nothing but contempt for me, believes this to be markedly insufficient and has been discussing my visiting negatively with others. This has been reducing my ability to a, go to the hospital and b, go/do any other necessary thing (such as shopping, I now have no food) as anytime I am able to go out I am confronted by the necessity of visiting the hospital. I recieve phone calls from relatives I've never met berating me for not visiting enough. Im doing what I can. What do I do?

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  • Former Member
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    In which case you are doing really well. I don't think your rels have anything to complain about.

    Have you discussed the situation with your brother? Can anyone give you a lift to the hospital? Can you share the visiting with him so that someone goes every day but you perhaps take turns? Are there any volunteer drivers connected to the hospital who can help in cases of need like this?

    I wish you and your mother all the best and hope she is getting the best care

    :-)

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    In which case you are doing really well. I don't think your rels have anything to complain about.

    Have you discussed the situation with your brother? Can anyone give you a lift to the hospital? Can you share the visiting with him so that someone goes every day but you perhaps take turns? Are there any volunteer drivers connected to the hospital who can help in cases of need like this?

    I wish you and your mother all the best and hope she is getting the best care

    :-)

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