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Does anyone else with ASD ever feel like they irritate people?

TwelveTwelve

Apologies if this seems like an odd question!

But does anyone with ASD ever feel like they irritate people? Friends, family, colleagues etc. Sometimes the feedback I get is that I "give off a vibe" that possibly seems like I am dis interested or annoyed, I'm not, but it seems to create an environment where lately I feel like I annoy people for simply being myself.

I'm pretty sure I really struggle to recognize emotion in other people, and I worry that might mean I miss the mark, but I don't know what is my ASD and what is other people's general issues. Has anyone had any similar experiences? Do other folks on here with ASD ever feel like this? 

I don't want to irritate people obviously, but I also don't want to blame my ASD on something completely unassociated, and I especially don't want to think people are irritated when they are not, it's just my poor understanding of reading peoples emotions!

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  • Ye totally. My children told me that all my friends think that I hate them because I'm rude to them when they come round. I was surprised as I didn't do this intentionally. I must seem rude to a lot of people without realising it unfortunately. 

  • in reply to Tamarinda

    It seems to be a common theme with autistic people from what I have read. My wife is very good at gently and discreetly reminding me that my facial expression sometimes gives the impression I am angry or annoyed. She will give me a gentle nudge when talking to people. Often it's just the standard setting of my face! But sometimes people bore me to tears and it's an accurate reflection of how I am feeling!

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  • in reply to Tamarinda

    It seems to be a common theme with autistic people from what I have read. My wife is very good at gently and discreetly reminding me that my facial expression sometimes gives the impression I am angry or annoyed. She will give me a gentle nudge when talking to people. Often it's just the standard setting of my face! But sometimes people bore me to tears and it's an accurate reflection of how I am feeling!

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