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Does anyone else with ASD ever feel like they irritate people?

TwelveTwelve

Apologies if this seems like an odd question!

But does anyone with ASD ever feel like they irritate people? Friends, family, colleagues etc. Sometimes the feedback I get is that I "give off a vibe" that possibly seems like I am dis interested or annoyed, I'm not, but it seems to create an environment where lately I feel like I annoy people for simply being myself.

I'm pretty sure I really struggle to recognize emotion in other people, and I worry that might mean I miss the mark, but I don't know what is my ASD and what is other people's general issues. Has anyone had any similar experiences? Do other folks on here with ASD ever feel like this? 

I don't want to irritate people obviously, but I also don't want to blame my ASD on something completely unassociated, and I especially don't want to think people are irritated when they are not, it's just my poor understanding of reading peoples emotions!

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  • Communication differences may irritate people. Bluntness, lack of normal social lubrication, emotional misreads of situations, over sharing, overly detailed responses, quibbling over minor details, literal interpretation, problems with uncertainty, etc.

    To what extent it matters depends on whether it stops them talking to you, is a minor annoyance, or is just a quirk that others accept.

    There can be over sensitivity to this too. 

    Small accommodations is on both sides can make things work more smoothly. But mostly just being self-aware is the main one.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Very true! I often need to remind myself that I also need to be mindful of the accommodations others need.

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