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Does anyone else with ASD ever feel like they irritate people?

TwelveTwelve

Apologies if this seems like an odd question!

But does anyone with ASD ever feel like they irritate people? Friends, family, colleagues etc. Sometimes the feedback I get is that I "give off a vibe" that possibly seems like I am dis interested or annoyed, I'm not, but it seems to create an environment where lately I feel like I annoy people for simply being myself.

I'm pretty sure I really struggle to recognize emotion in other people, and I worry that might mean I miss the mark, but I don't know what is my ASD and what is other people's general issues. Has anyone had any similar experiences? Do other folks on here with ASD ever feel like this? 

I don't want to irritate people obviously, but I also don't want to blame my ASD on something completely unassociated, and I especially don't want to think people are irritated when they are not, it's just my poor understanding of reading peoples emotions!

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  • I often feel like I irritate people, I struggle on trying to communicate in their way, but I sense I’m just tolerated and didn’t get it right. I feel that if I mention autism I’m then making everything about me, so mainly I just stay away from people.

  • in reply to Roy

    I can completely understand that, Roy! I thought being diagnosed might give me the confidence to speak about autism and how its define me, but like you say, I feel like people may think I am making excuses or being narcissistic. I was only diagnosed about a month ago though. Did you diagnosis (if you have had one )help at all?

  • in reply to TwelveTwelve

    Hi, I was diagnosed one year ago, I was 57. It did help as in it stopped a lot of imposter thoughts, I had a family member tell me I shouldn’t say I’m autistic unless I am diagnosed with it.

    After the assessment I felt happy at first and then sadness at what I thought my life could have been.

    I don’t really mention autism to many people, most of my family still don’t know. Most people just don’t understand autism. I’m often still expected to do things I’m not happy with.

    It’s viewed that I always seemed to cope, so why can’t I now? The main misconception is that I don’t look autistic, whatever that means. As I stated to unmask and try to make my life easier for me, the reaction was that I’m being awkward.

    The answer is yes, the diagnosis has helped. I now know why I’m different, I don’t have to prove anything to anyone, I will be me. I’ve lost a few friends along the way but am happy continuing to explore my world. I hope your diagnosis answers a lot of the questions you must have about yourself.

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  • in reply to TwelveTwelve

    Hi, I was diagnosed one year ago, I was 57. It did help as in it stopped a lot of imposter thoughts, I had a family member tell me I shouldn’t say I’m autistic unless I am diagnosed with it.

    After the assessment I felt happy at first and then sadness at what I thought my life could have been.

    I don’t really mention autism to many people, most of my family still don’t know. Most people just don’t understand autism. I’m often still expected to do things I’m not happy with.

    It’s viewed that I always seemed to cope, so why can’t I now? The main misconception is that I don’t look autistic, whatever that means. As I stated to unmask and try to make my life easier for me, the reaction was that I’m being awkward.

    The answer is yes, the diagnosis has helped. I now know why I’m different, I don’t have to prove anything to anyone, I will be me. I’ve lost a few friends along the way but am happy continuing to explore my world. I hope your diagnosis answers a lot of the questions you must have about yourself.

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