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Does anyone else with ASD ever feel like they irritate people?

TwelveTwelve

Apologies if this seems like an odd question!

But does anyone with ASD ever feel like they irritate people? Friends, family, colleagues etc. Sometimes the feedback I get is that I "give off a vibe" that possibly seems like I am dis interested or annoyed, I'm not, but it seems to create an environment where lately I feel like I annoy people for simply being myself.

I'm pretty sure I really struggle to recognize emotion in other people, and I worry that might mean I miss the mark, but I don't know what is my ASD and what is other people's general issues. Has anyone had any similar experiences? Do other folks on here with ASD ever feel like this? 

I don't want to irritate people obviously, but I also don't want to blame my ASD on something completely unassociated, and I especially don't want to think people are irritated when they are not, it's just my poor understanding of reading peoples emotions!

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  • I do feel that sometimes, well, often actually, but I don't really socialise anymore so theres less oportunity for me to accidentally annoy people, but that being said, a lot of people annoy me and I think some of my fears of being annoying are because I'm annoyed, somebody says something I disagree with and I might not say anything and then worry that I've annoyed them by not agreeing with them. But if I disagree with them and find what they've said offensive, why should I worry what they think of me, they should worry about what I think of them.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Great point! I do the same! I think "well that's a load of nonsense, but I won't say anything otherwise I might upset them" then minutes later I will be told that my opinion is stupid etc and wonder if they are bothered I have found them annoying! Since being diagnosed I worry I am over sensitive and lean towards catastrophising interactions, and that makes things even more difficult to traverse. It's like I need a person speaking into my ear telling me what's appropriate to say and feel man facepalming

  • in reply to TwelveTwelve

    Just because you're autistic dosen't mean that you can't have opinions and that those opinions are valid and should be treated as such, but remember we do live in a world where people can't seem to agree to disagree anymore. 

    Most of all remember opinions are like bottom holes, everybodys got one!

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