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Does anyone else with ASD ever feel like they irritate people?

TwelveTwelve

Apologies if this seems like an odd question!

But does anyone with ASD ever feel like they irritate people? Friends, family, colleagues etc. Sometimes the feedback I get is that I "give off a vibe" that possibly seems like I am dis interested or annoyed, I'm not, but it seems to create an environment where lately I feel like I annoy people for simply being myself.

I'm pretty sure I really struggle to recognize emotion in other people, and I worry that might mean I miss the mark, but I don't know what is my ASD and what is other people's general issues. Has anyone had any similar experiences? Do other folks on here with ASD ever feel like this? 

I don't want to irritate people obviously, but I also don't want to blame my ASD on something completely unassociated, and I especially don't want to think people are irritated when they are not, it's just my poor understanding of reading peoples emotions!

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  • Yes, it's my persistent problem and I'm gonna talk about it to my therapist next week. I've got so many times a negative feedback,  that I overthink instinctively if I annoyed anyone. But I don't dare asking much, to not annoy others.

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Thanks for replying! It would be interesting to hear what a therapist says. You also make a great point, its past feedback that may have made me think I instinctively annoy people. 

    It seems to be worse at the minute because of the football, people love talking about it, and I couldn't care less. I don't watch football, I don't follow football and I find it a waste of time talking about it. People look at me like I am an alien when I say that. I'm not saying it to upset people, I love that they love it and that it brings joy to them, I just think it's a waste of time. But then I worry that people think I am being dismissive. 

  • in reply to TwelveTwelve

    I once made the mistake of saying to someone who was shouting at the badly played football, 'it's only a game.'

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  • in reply to Homebird

    I would have been nodding in agreement with you! I got told recently that it's not appropriate to say to people "I'm not interested in that" if they are talking about something I don't care about. I took it on board because it was someone who I know is trying to help me that told me saying it could be a social faux pas. But every time someone speaks about the football for more than 2 mins my brain starts to shut down. Thats a me problem though. If football brings people joy then good for them. People have told me that a 38yr old man playing video games as a hobby is pointless, and I love playing them, so each to their own I guess.