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I'm sick of helping everyone else!

Kool_kat

I'm a teacher. Just a class teacher, not SLT. At the moment I'm trying to support 2 colleagues going through a hard time. This morning I spent 20 minutes checking in on them. Then I had another colleague come and spend a good 10 minutes moaning at me about things the head teacher has done. Then someone came asking me to help fix their laptop, then someone else wanted me to cover their playground duty. Then the head turned up and asked me to sort another IT problem. 

Not one of those people asked how I am. Not one of them spotted I'd been crying (my eyes were really red so I thought it was obvious). 

I just feel like I'm done with the world. Even my own husband doesn't ever ask if im ok. 

  • Firstly, 

    Kool_kat said:
    I'm a teacher. Just a class teacher,

    There is no such thing, I think teaching is one of the most demanding jobs there is.  Set some boundaries, I’ve had similar, everyone has always come to me to sort something out, I suppose it’s because we are generally good problem solvers and can think diagonally. Nobody ever asks if I’m okay, I tend to people please. 
    Maybe just take a step back and tell them you are too busy to help, chin up, not long until the summer holidays.

  • Sometimes, to protect our own wellbeing, we might need to say no - even though we can feel pressurised (whether by others, or perhaps by ourselves, as part of wanting to fit in) to keep saying yes.

    As this article says: "If you feel there are unmanageable or unrealistic demands placed on you, it can help to discuss this and get support from the people around you."

    NAS - Autistic fatigue and burnout

  • Kool_kat said:
    I just feel like I'm done with the world.

    No, no no!!!! This is just a very, very bad day - and shame on your colleagues for over-loading you. You have a right to moan about this!

    I'm sure many of us recognise this - being used as a tape-recorder and also as a punchbag. I think this is the 'lot' of autistic people; because we take so much time to respond, 'they' have ample time to 'fill in the gap' with moans, gripes, blames, sobs etc. I was in a shop years ago, and the female shop-keeper started relating her worries to me - a stranger and customer - and 20 minutes later I was still pinned like a butterfly to the wall unable to get out. It was like a wall of sound.

    Pick yourself up. This was a blip and you know you'll recover. Treat yourself to some flowers and a present. If hubbie doesn't respond, take yourself out for an expensive dinner with a friend.

  • I hear you and hope that the acknowledgement helps and a virtual hug in the ether.  I was a teacher for 25 years...............................