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Making friends/loneliness

tetra

Hi Wave  I'm a bit new so please be patient with me:)

Something I've struggled with my whole life is making friends and finding likeminded people. Lately I've felt so much more isolated than usual and I feel a bit hopeless.

I'm 26 but every time I try and make friends or socialize with people, I feel like I'm that weird, lonely 13 year old again who doesn't have a place anywhere, and although it feels embarrassing to even say, I'm really, really lonely. Everyone around me seems to have friends and I just don't get it. 

It's so hard to make friends as an adult. How do you even do it? Where do you even go? Does anyone else find this really difficult? 

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  • I thought my complete lack of friends was due to moving around so much as a child - I got used to people disappearing after a year or so, I thought this was normal?

    I'd have weekends of just not seeing anybody until I went back to work. I think I just got used to being alone.

    I'm in my mid 60's now, and nothing much changed - though I do have a partner - they seem to have more friends than I do.

    Strange, because what feels rewarding to me now is meeting people. I never used to enjoy it but now it seems to be part of the delight of life. I guess I learned to appreciate people. Sigh, could have done with that when I was in my twenties.

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  • I thought my complete lack of friends was due to moving around so much as a child - I got used to people disappearing after a year or so, I thought this was normal?

    I'd have weekends of just not seeing anybody until I went back to work. I think I just got used to being alone.

    I'm in my mid 60's now, and nothing much changed - though I do have a partner - they seem to have more friends than I do.

    Strange, because what feels rewarding to me now is meeting people. I never used to enjoy it but now it seems to be part of the delight of life. I guess I learned to appreciate people. Sigh, could have done with that when I was in my twenties.

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