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Making friends/loneliness

tetra

Hi Wave  I'm a bit new so please be patient with me:)

Something I've struggled with my whole life is making friends and finding likeminded people. Lately I've felt so much more isolated than usual and I feel a bit hopeless.

I'm 26 but every time I try and make friends or socialize with people, I feel like I'm that weird, lonely 13 year old again who doesn't have a place anywhere, and although it feels embarrassing to even say, I'm really, really lonely. Everyone around me seems to have friends and I just don't get it. 

It's so hard to make friends as an adult. How do you even do it? Where do you even go? Does anyone else find this really difficult? 

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  • I think all the ideas of groups is a good one, I think people make friends by going somewhere regularly, and get to know the people who do the same over time. This can be places like work, volunteering, groups etc. If you go to a something, you could even ask to help out, as often having a little responsibility will help you get to know others while giving you a purpose (I find it helps with any anxiety).  It also means the main focus is just being around people regularly without having to commit to being friends until you get to know them better, like Waggers said about less pressure on yourself then.

    Good luck, and I hope you can also enjoy chatting on here got company!

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  • I think all the ideas of groups is a good one, I think people make friends by going somewhere regularly, and get to know the people who do the same over time. This can be places like work, volunteering, groups etc. If you go to a something, you could even ask to help out, as often having a little responsibility will help you get to know others while giving you a purpose (I find it helps with any anxiety).  It also means the main focus is just being around people regularly without having to commit to being friends until you get to know them better, like Waggers said about less pressure on yourself then.

    Good luck, and I hope you can also enjoy chatting on here got company!

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