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Struggling To Confront Family On Topics

Jakey

Just to set it out, trigger warning: politics, abuse, bigotry. 

I'm not sure how much of this I can include because of community rules.

A week ago I was at a gathering and it was seeming like it was going to be a good day. It started to go wrong pretty quickly. 

There was mention of a protest happening near me which was anti-fascist and it was commented on as being "Why do people even bother with them?" 

I hear another really dumb comment responding to that saying they can't be because of the class issues? Which is such an odd thing to say?

Then pride month was mentioned, I want to keep my status private here but I am fully aware of why it's celebrated. It was being discussed and they said "What's the point in celebrating pride, why don't we have a straight one?" I know the answer. However I can't communicate well under pressure. But it hurt knowing that.I also haven't come out to everyone about status there.

Another thing that really bothered me that has turned into politics sadly is the mentions of anti-immigration. For some reason there are a few people in my family that believe in this, and it's heart breaking to hear because there is such blatant misinformation and rage baiting out there, some believe it more than others, where immigration can be accepted. But the other believes lynching is a viable solution...

Then there was a horrible topic bought up later involving a horrific abuse case which for some reason made a point about sexuality. I got sent into PTSD hearing that as I've been negatively affected by trauma related to it in childhood. 

After that I just completely shut down. I can't see these people the same way again, I feel like I've been betrayed, and feel the whole country is plummeting to darkness. I never had such a strong urge to end my life immediately. It's too much to handle. I don't know what to do here. This country is so ***. It's beyond the point of repair, I don't want to be here anymore. 

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  • I understand why you feel as you do when family members and those you are in contact with have political views that are incompatible with your moral framework. It must be incredibly difficult for you.

    The world has become polarised and people have extreme views.  It’s as if some people don’t see the intrinsic value of personhood in every individual.

    Jakey said:
    I never had such a strong urge to end my life immediately. It's too much to handle. I don't know what to do here. This country is so ***. It's beyond the point of repair, I don't want to be here anymore. 

    I would say don’t give up. World politics often goes through particularly challenging times. We don’t have to look back too far in time to see even more horrific inhumane actions being undertaken in the name of a political power. Some of these actions would be considered unacceptable today, even by those with extreme views, so in a sense, these things have always been with us and they will pass. There isn’t a timescale, but we can choose to believe that things will get better, it’s a cause worth believing in.

    Keep hope alive.

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  • I understand why you feel as you do when family members and those you are in contact with have political views that are incompatible with your moral framework. It must be incredibly difficult for you.

    The world has become polarised and people have extreme views.  It’s as if some people don’t see the intrinsic value of personhood in every individual.

    Jakey said:
    I never had such a strong urge to end my life immediately. It's too much to handle. I don't know what to do here. This country is so ***. It's beyond the point of repair, I don't want to be here anymore. 

    I would say don’t give up. World politics often goes through particularly challenging times. We don’t have to look back too far in time to see even more horrific inhumane actions being undertaken in the name of a political power. Some of these actions would be considered unacceptable today, even by those with extreme views, so in a sense, these things have always been with us and they will pass. There isn’t a timescale, but we can choose to believe that things will get better, it’s a cause worth believing in.

    Keep hope alive.

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