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Struggling To Confront Family On Topics

Jakey

Just to set it out, trigger warning: politics, abuse, bigotry. 

I'm not sure how much of this I can include because of community rules.

A week ago I was at a gathering and it was seeming like it was going to be a good day. It started to go wrong pretty quickly. 

There was mention of a protest happening near me which was anti-fascist and it was commented on as being "Why do people even bother with them?" 

I hear another really dumb comment responding to that saying they can't be because of the class issues? Which is such an odd thing to say?

Then pride month was mentioned, I want to keep my status private here but I am fully aware of why it's celebrated. It was being discussed and they said "What's the point in celebrating pride, why don't we have a straight one?" I know the answer. However I can't communicate well under pressure. But it hurt knowing that.I also haven't come out to everyone about status there.

Another thing that really bothered me that has turned into politics sadly is the mentions of anti-immigration. For some reason there are a few people in my family that believe in this, and it's heart breaking to hear because there is such blatant misinformation and rage baiting out there, some believe it more than others, where immigration can be accepted. But the other believes lynching is a viable solution...

Then there was a horrible topic bought up later involving a horrific abuse case which for some reason made a point about sexuality. I got sent into PTSD hearing that as I've been negatively affected by trauma related to it in childhood. 

After that I just completely shut down. I can't see these people the same way again, I feel like I've been betrayed, and feel the whole country is plummeting to darkness. I never had such a strong urge to end my life immediately. It's too much to handle. I don't know what to do here. This country is so ***. It's beyond the point of repair, I don't want to be here anymore. 

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  • Hey Jakey, your post has so many points I agree on and is exactly why we have these events. Having people around you express these scary views and you would feel trapped by all the ill-informed opinions that only seem to spout hate for those that are different from themselves. There is a terrible lack of understanding these days which is frightening, but like you there will be so many more who don't share these views but are struggling to heard over the loudness of the hate. I tend to shut down in fear too if I encounter people as they don't/won't even listen to logic.

    I have a family member who is trans and this country today terrifies me for the vilification of that community and makes me worry for their safety. It is so easy to blame others and hate them for all of life's problems, but there are those of us who try and shelter and hold a light and hope for better times again.

    I hope you are okay, and can eventually find people who you can safely be yourself around, as everyone deserves.

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    I wish I knew a way I could cope. The biggest problem with trying to cope is my other problems, mixed anxiety, and eventually the panic and stress creeps up on me with my crohn's disease. 

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